What I Think I Am Is Different From Reality

I am not saying that I live in an unreal world, but the way I imagine myself (mostly appearance) is different from the way I really I look like.

depending on how happy I am sometimes I think I am very beautiful and charming and sometimes I just don't want anyone to recognize me because I feel ugly or not charming enough.

sometimes when I see videos or pictures of myself, it's like she is a stranger to me. my voice is so different from what I imagine it is, my looks, etc.

why is that? do you feel the same?

saeidehbakhshi saeidehbakhshi
26-30, F
2 Responses Feb 18, 2010

At times, I feel similarly, Saeideh. I don't really associate my physical appearance with me. People tell me all the time that I look like this person or that. And I say really, I don't think so. My reflection does not seem personally familiar to me. This may sound even stranger, but sometimes I speak to myself in the mirror in the third person. I tell her (not me) that she is strong and smart and deserving of happiness. At some point, I hope I can reconcile these aspects of me, but until then I wish her well ;-)

I agree with you but does it the way that we think about ourselves affect our beauty?<br />
for example if one day you feel more confident and happy, then you are more open toward other people and you give others the chance to get to know your beauties (appearance or inner beauty) and as a result you look more attractive to others, but if you are not in the mood or you don't think high enough of yourself then you start giving others the impression that you are boring or not good enough to start a conversation/friendship.