Technically I Was 13..

I'm not a ****, and I'm not an idiot. Me and my boyfriend have been dating for 9 months, I technically he "popped my cherry" when I was 13 when he was fingering me.. Ew, it sounds so awkward.. We actually had sex the day after my 14th birthday. I consider that the day I actually lost my virginity even though.. ya know.. So we lost our virginity to each other, and I'm happy about it.. Do you think I was wrong to have sex with him? We're still together, and I really do want to be with him forever. Months before we even touched each other like that he said he wanted to be with me forever.. I'm just trying to give some backround on our relationship so you can see why I thought it was fine.. I don't regret it, but I knew we'd be together for a long time, so I don't know why I didn't wait. I sort of wish our first time was either on our 1 year anniversary or once we we're married.. Which brings me back to: am I a bad person? I'm a Christian and I know you're not supposed to have sex until you're married, but I planned/plan on marrying him.. He didn't REALLY pressure me, just a little "I really want to have sex with you", I wanted to, but I hate messing up or doing anything wrong, and I was sort of scared it would hurt (it did the first THREE times, that was some serious pain). We used condoms every time, and I haven't missed any periods, so I'm not worried about anything.. Anyone else have sex that early? I feel kinda embarrassed and lonely..
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6 Responses Jan 27, 2013

Wow a 9 month relationship... Are you guys still together??

Nothing to feel embarassed or lonely about.
God made sex feel good for a reason. And that reason is, it is to be enjoyed.

You're not a bad person. Sex isn't a bad thing when it's consensual. It's also okay for you and your boyfriend to stop having sex if that's what either of you want. :) You sound like you're being responsible that's all that matters. Definitely get the HPV vaccine though! :)

If you love him, TRULY love him, then there's nothing wrong. However you may think you love someone, even after several months, and you really don't. I lost mine about 3 months after unturned 14 to someone I thought I loved but quite frankly I HATE him. I regretted it as soon as I did it. Each situation is unique though, just make sure it's what you want. I'm embarrassed that I did it that early and especially with that person, but it can't be changed. Don't feel alone

You're not alone. My boyfriend and I lost our virginities to each other just a month ago (I'm actually 15, but I just changed my age settings a little early), and you're not a "bad" person. It's just not a recommended thing to do. But I, for one am curious as to why after the first time it hurt so much? But you have to think, did he really mean what he said when he told you he wanted to be together forever? If you think he did, then there's really no reason to feel so bad about it. Men tend to be goal driven though, so that's just something to think about. I, for one, knew my boyfriend for 5 years before hand, so I knew when he was lying or not when he told me he loved me and that this was the best relationship he had. I watched him, I HELPED him through his past relationships, and I know most everything about him. Now, I'm not trying to make you feel bad or anything, I just want to make you think about it. You aren't alone, there are many people that have lost their virginity at your age, some willingly, some not, but there are a lot of people that haven't. Know you aren't alone, but know that you have to think. And FOR THE LOVE OF ALL THE GODS IN THE WORLD use a condom! I haven't been, and it's so stressful, I am not pregnant by the way, and I'm getting condoms from my friend, but USE THEM. Just go to the store and buy them. Ask a friend if you don't want to do it yourself. But get them. It's so much better to know you have some protection than none. It's far less stress too.

You are young, too young to think this will turn into marriage. First love is first love and it's part of growing up.Losing your viginity is when you have intercourse, not when your "cherry is popped ".
Don't plan for this to be the love of your life. You both have a lot of growing up to do. It is what it is , and enjoy it while its good. Be careful , be safe, don't believe that you have sinned. Now that you have done it , concentrate on your school work and plan for your future, that is more important.