When You Have 11My children are great and very well behaved..... most of the time but when you have 11 kids, you need to punish them when they misbehave. I am a single parent. My husband cheated on me and walked out on the kids. I don't hear from him anymore. My children's ages range from 3 years old to 16 years old and I spank them all. It's the quickest and most effective ways of discipline. My children are:
Hamish - 3
Alice - 4
Nellie - 5
Ellie - 5
Kellie - 5
Andrew - 7
Samuel - 8
Callum - 10
Jessica - 13
Owen - 14
Cody - 16
For small offences such as:
- Back talking
- Plain Disobedience
They are warned first. Then they get about 4 quick slaps on the bottom. That is usually enough to make the younger ones cry and stop making trouble. If they continue, then I take them to the lounge room and give them an over the knee, bare bottom spanking. For larger offences such as:
- Ditching school
- Constant public misbehaviour
- Constant incomplete homework
- Constant bad behaviour
- Physically hurting another person
They are taken up to their bedrooms and put over my knee. I give them a bare bottom spanking with the hairbrush or even a belt if they have been especially naughty. Then they have to stand in the corner in the lounge room with their bottoms on show for 2x their age (eg, 7 years old, 14 minutes).
This punishment works and most of the time the kids thank me for spanking them and say that they have learned their lesson after they have finished corner time.
Now I gotta say, a couple of months ago was one of the most stressful days in my life regarding spanking. It's like all of the kids were in the same crummy mood.
It started in the morning. They were all sitting at the table eating breakfast together when Andrew pinched Samuel. Samuel cried and then hit Andrew hard on the arm. Andrew bawled and then physically threw his bowl of cereal over Samuel. He was a mess! I told Andrew to go up to his room immediately and wait for me there. Then I took Samuel to the bathroom. I bathed him and changed him into a clean school uniform. Then I marched him up to Andrew's room as he hit Andrew and he would be punished for that. I sat on a chair in Andrew's room and put Samuel over my knee and spanked him about 15 times. Enough to make him cry and then sent him downstairs to finish his breakfast quietly. Then I dealt with Andrew. "How many spanks do you think you deserve?" I asked him. This is typical. If they answer too little, they get more for trying to get out of it but usually they answer a fair amount. "None" he replied "Samuel fought back. The pinch was a joke!". I was pretty annoyed. I just had to get on with it. I put him over my knee and spanked him about 25 times with a hairbrush on his bare bottom. Then I marched him downstairs and made him stand in the corner with his pants down.
Then at about 12:00 pm I got a phone call from the high school that Owen, Jessica and Cody attend. They told me that Owen was officially suspended for wagging school yesterday and today. Well for heavens sake!
I had to go and pick him up from the school. When we got to the car I gave him a couple of hard spanks. In the car, we had an interesting talk.
" Why did you wag school Owen? What were you thinking!" I asked
" Am I going to be spanked?" he asked quietly
" Yes you are!" I replied " Now answer my question"
" I'm being bullied" he whispered
" By who?" I asked thoughtfully
" Cody" he replied
I was horrified! My own son bullying another!
" What was he doing to you?" I asked Owen
" Teasing me, shoving me against the lockers and hurting me" he replied
" What did he tease you about?" I asked
" Not being in the popular group. What can you do?"
" Oh my god. I'm so sorry. How did he hurt you?"
Owen lifted up his school pants to reveal a huge bruise on his leg. I stopped the car suddenly. How could Cody do this?
At home, Cody walked in cool as anything.I cut to the chase and asked him why he harassed Owen. He said he was bored and wanted to look cool. After hearing that I was mad! I took both boys up to my room as Owen did wag school and would have to remember that was the wrong thing to do. I put him over my knee and spanked him about 10 times with the hairbrush. Not too hard though. He sobbed quietly. Then I sent him out of the room. I told Cody to lay over my bed. He did. Then I spanked him about 30 times with a belt so his bottom was red.
It's not usually like this so don't assume my kids are out of control.
This is the way I handle things and it works so when you have 11...