I am glad to see someone make a sensible comment. TOO many people (men and women) are eager to blame the other side while forgetting that ANY relationship (even an abusive one) requires TWO participants. "You can't lose if you don't play" is the message I instilled in my daughters. Thankfully, they've been in healthy relationships, and are clear that ANY abuse will not be tolerated. It's a message they've seen enacted by me, when they were many years younger...