I need help and advice! My husband of six years is not the man I thought he was. I fell in love with a man who I thought was more positive than negative, but for the last few years, he has exuded negativity. He complains about everything he has to do. He is 9 years older than me, and I thought loving an older man would make the difference in having a man who didn't cheat on me over immature ones who did. I was wrong. My husband is dishonest. An old flame of his emailed him. I saw the email. I confronted him. He calmed me down and said everything is okay and he would never engage in such. He never responded to her but after our talk, he changed his passwords. This made me think he has reached out to her because he changed all of his passwords (Yes, he has more than one email address). When I asked him about the change, he stated that he was angry about me looking into his email an anger never expresssed before.He ownns a business. I believe he treats strangers better than me. He speaks to them better than how he speaks to me. I can't tell you the last time he said "I Love You". I think more than one day is too long Yes, I communicate how I feel. It doesn't matter because nothing changes. I even tried to be the change I wanted to see & feel. Nothing but exuces. We have kids-- five total (1 between the two of us). He doesn't do much (activities-- we are okay financially) for any of the kids. He has excuses such as I'd rather do adult things than be around a bunch of kids. Keep in mind, I love kids. To top this off, I do not like and could probably say hate his sister. She is disrespectful to me and he does nothing. He makes up excuses for her and everything that has happened between the two of us are all my doings/causings. He sees nothing but the worse in me. His sister does wonderful things for the kids and for him. But she refuses to respect that I am his wife and treat me like family. I spoke to her as well and her excuse was I'm too rigid. So we informally agreed to stay away from eachother. Why should I change who I am if I am not asking her to change how she is (loud, use extensive amounts of profanity, drinks a lot, etc.). She acts like she is his woman at times and he lets her.This really burns me up. I'm so over it. He claims I should be happy with my life because he works, he's educated, he owns his own business and it's successful. Forget about sex, love, trust, honesty, loyalty, and respect.
miserablecoma miserablecoma
36-40, F
Aug 31, 2014