Are you living with a form of anxiety or depression? There’s a high probability that you need to disown your family. Wow…that sounds like a screwed up infomercial, doesn't it?

Seriously, though, I came to this realization after decades of trying to go the route of forgiveness. Don’t get me wrong. I am a huge proponent of forgiveness; however, there are certain issues in life that reaches far beyond the act of “forgive and forget.” For me, it took the unthinkable task of disassociation from my parents. I now refer to them as my “birth mother” and “birth father.”

I had spent years kidding myself that I would someday get over the pain and anguish of verbal and physical abuse caused by my family. When I unknowingly suffered a nervous breakdown at the age of 26, it was time to stop pretending.

You see, when you get sick with anxiety and depression, you look normal to others, but your inner core is turned upside down. The constant mind-chatter contradicts itself and no amount of sleep can shut down the internal noise. The exhaustion is debilitating and no one around you understands. No, not even you.

When I disowned my parents in my heart this past year (I’m now 44), it was a major turning point and I had never been so honest with myself. Every family member that I once knew has been either cut off or they remain a "close friend." Those who hurt me the most are completely disassociated from my heart. When I see them, it’s like looking at a stranger, someone who has no ties to me whatsoever. It’s absolutely liberating!!!

Resolution is very important upon disowning family members. I had to carefully consider the how(s) and why(s) of this necessary process. It’s never just one example that brings us to this place of unrest. Family abuse is years in the making, and I had to release the guilt in order to wholeheartedly free myself.

Every person’s encounter is different. There’s a reason why you are here on this site and reading these stories. If your family is causing you fear, anxiety, depression or any intense negativity, it’s time to consider disowning them….for good. You are not doing yourself any favors by hanging on to people who are no longer worth another ounce of your time, energy and suffering. You do not need justification or affirmation. You will know in your heart when the time is right to release them into the universe….
SymSym83 SymSym83
41-45, F
Dec 12, 2012