I Believe Domestic Discipline Can Be AbusiveI do believe that domestic discipline can be healthy. I have corresponded with TIH wives who are also in DD relationships and I do believe that many of these women are happy and content within their marriages. They have entered into DD as consensual partners and many have loving husbands who truly cherish these women and do not wish to harm them. These women as I have come to understand are intelligent and strong women who wish to be held accountable for their actions. There is nothing at all wrong with this, in fact I find it quite honourable. I am not a TIH wife and I am not in a DD relationship and this is my choice, just as this is their choice.
I have recently come across some stories from DD wives that I find heartbreaking and that I do feel are abusive. These women talk of being "spanked" with implements other than a bare hand. They speak of beatings with hairbrushes and clothes hangers! I am appalled, I am horrified and I can no longer in good conscience remain quiet. I do believe these women are being abused and I do know that what their husbands are doing is illegal and would be considered assault under the law. A human male is much larger and stronger than a human female. What is wrong with just spanking with his hands? Why must he use an implement? How can these wives respect such a man???? A man should NEVER, EVER lay his hands on a woman! Spanking with his hands ( with her consent) is one thing but the use of an implement like a hairbrush, strap or clothes hanger is quite horrifying. Would anyone be ok with a child being disciplined with such an implement???
I have to speak up and I encourage other to as well. Some of these women appear brain washed to me ( my opinion), and seem to have relegated their good judgement at the door and appear to defer to brash, bullish and mean husbands who could not care for these women. My own husband bless his heart was as horrified as I when I told him of this. Most men would not condone this, society does not condone this and we all should speak out about this abuse that is being carried out under the guise of "loving authority". These females seem to live in a sort of bubble, well I am about to burst your bubble and offer you some perspective ladies, this is not okay. If you believe all men to be worthy of honour and respect well, Ive got some real estate to sell you.
gumshoejane2 36-40, F 43 Responses 9 Nov 23, 2011