I Do Not Hang Onto To Friends Who Betray Me
For everyone out there who has been hurt, betrayed, cheated on by someone they had called friend, you have choices. To seek an explaination, to make sure it wasn't down to a misunderstanding, to accept an apology or walk away.
We choose our friends, we don't sign a contract, we are not obliged to put up with mistreatment because we accepted them as a friend. The length of a friendship is not always testimony to it's strength and quality.
It's better to have one or a few true friends than others who smile, say nice things, take all the treats and the kindnesses you offer, but would be willing to stab you in the back for their own ends.
My so called friend had been in my life since we were 11yrs old, now 47 years ago. We were school friends. I knew her before I met my boyfriend who became my husband. We remained friends after I got married, after I had children. She was one of the Godparents. She and her twin sister came on family holidays, saw us every weekend until we moved, continued to have weekend holidays, about once a month. We indulged them. She had no other friends besides us. Then, she began to be really bitchy with me whilst throwing herself at my husband as though I wasn't there! Call it Old Maids Insanity, post menopausal desperation, her fear of growing old and still wanting to be attractive, her behaviour has lost her the only friends she had. We talked to her, talked to her sister to attempt to sort it out. All I got was anger and abuse. So, I've cut my loses and more than happy with the good and true friends I care about and trust.
My advise, do a friendship review. Who is there to hug you when the dog dies, your marriage breaks up, who listens to your ire about your mother in law, for the umpteenth time that week, who would be happy to do the same fir, sharing your joy and sadness equally. Who only takes not gives, who is disinterested in you, only wants you when you an do them a favour? The later are not friends, they are parasites and we don't hang onto parasites, so why hang onto fair weather 'friends'?
We choose our friends, we don't sign a contract, we are not obliged to put up with mistreatment because we accepted them as a friend. The length of a friendship is not always testimony to it's strength and quality.
It's better to have one or a few true friends than others who smile, say nice things, take all the treats and the kindnesses you offer, but would be willing to stab you in the back for their own ends.
My so called friend had been in my life since we were 11yrs old, now 47 years ago. We were school friends. I knew her before I met my boyfriend who became my husband. We remained friends after I got married, after I had children. She was one of the Godparents. She and her twin sister came on family holidays, saw us every weekend until we moved, continued to have weekend holidays, about once a month. We indulged them. She had no other friends besides us. Then, she began to be really bitchy with me whilst throwing herself at my husband as though I wasn't there! Call it Old Maids Insanity, post menopausal desperation, her fear of growing old and still wanting to be attractive, her behaviour has lost her the only friends she had. We talked to her, talked to her sister to attempt to sort it out. All I got was anger and abuse. So, I've cut my loses and more than happy with the good and true friends I care about and trust.
My advise, do a friendship review. Who is there to hug you when the dog dies, your marriage breaks up, who listens to your ire about your mother in law, for the umpteenth time that week, who would be happy to do the same fir, sharing your joy and sadness equally. Who only takes not gives, who is disinterested in you, only wants you when you an do them a favour? The later are not friends, they are parasites and we don't hang onto parasites, so why hang onto fair weather 'friends'?
By:
Siouxiesioux2
Age:
56-60
,
Female
