I've Had Very Few Friends Throughout My Life

Since childhood making friends came very hard for me.

I think that there is something in me that does not allow many close connections with other people. It is not easy for me to "let go" to just be the person who is inside of me.

Many interests that people around me have do not interest me a bit. It is hard to keep a conversation going with someone (especially when you are shy) when the subject has little interest.

Often when I am able to make conversation with people I end up being the sounding board for them... I know that in the end a relationship that is so one-sided probably isn't a healthy friendship.

Most of the time I don't worry to much about not having friends. I am married and I consider my wife and my young children friends... but there are times when I wish I could "connect" better with people and make other lasting friendships

seismicunloc seismicunloc
36-40, M
3 Responses Feb 9, 2009

I think it is hard, but if you are shy maybe you are not a sounding board. they might be trying to keep the friendship alive. so you can get comfortable ,and not so shy.I know for me long periods of silence are hard to take. hope this helps

i am finding that as I make new friends here on EP it is a little easier to make them off line

have you tried getting drunk and then talking to people? <br />
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say at a bar, watching a game, talk about your favorite team? ohh its theirs too? BAM new friendship.