And I Worry That It Bothers My Wife.

A lot of times, I just don't want to talk. I'm thinking about something, stuff, the next day, the job search, whatever. I just have become someone that doesn't talk much. It has nothing to do with her. It's a change inside me and me trying to figure out what is going on. I feel overwhelmed.

That being a darker side of it, I also think more about complex things than I used to; things that she doesn't think about and to talk about these things you have to have thought about them a lot. She's smart, just not curious like I am.

She never complains and I think she knows that's just 'how I am'. I can't stand talking on the phone, even to the few friends I do have. I really don't think it's hurting anything per say, but I feel bad about it. I want us to remain the great friends we've always been. I don't want my state of mind to cause her to feel anything bad or that she's not important to me. She'll always be my love. I just don't always like to talk.

fascad3 fascad3
36-40, M
1 Response Nov 2, 2009

I'm sure she'll understand if you explain,during those times when you do feel like taking so she doesn't get freaked out by your silence. I always let whoever i'm with know this so it doesn't freak them out when it does happen and i go into my 'quiet mode'