I don't believe in superstitious legends. I don't believe in any other superstition. I don't believe in all things that are part of peoples small-time gossip. More to the point, I don't believe in everything I hear from all people. But there are certain things I would understand, as well as believe in from certain people.

For one thing, I don't believe it at all when people say, "If a person is lying, his or her lips are moving." That, actually, is what you'd call a superstitious legend, an exaggeration, and further more, a common misconception. You can only tell when a person is lying when he's taking too long to respond, or when he's moving his eyes around so much and he's still taking too long to respond. Even when there's a suspicious look in his eye, and even a gloating sneer in his face, you can very well tell that he could very well be lying. But to the point, there are plenty of ways to figure out when a person is lying. But just to say it's "when a person's lips are moving" is again a superstitious legend, an exaggeration, and furthermore a common misconception.

When a person is moving his lips, he is talking, because that's exactly how we talk. There's no other way for us to talk, except for when our lips are moving, which everyone knows anyways.

When a person is talking, whether he's telling the truth, embellishing the truth a little bit, lying, exaggerating, or just plain uncertain what's really going on, is all based on a person's intentions, confusement, or uncertainty.

So always remember, it's always best to try listening a little more to what a person could be trying to tell you. It's not always best to just jump immediately into any wrong conclusions and start accusing them of lying from there whatsoever, because it would only make things worse for you as it would for them. If you notice him taking too long to respond, moving his eyes around so much and still taking too long to respond, a suspicious look in his eye, or even a gloating sneer on his face, you can notice very well that he could be lying, and you can let others know about it.

So, how about this: You don't tell me when I'm moving my lips, that I'm lying, and I won't jump into any wrong conclusions and start accusing you of something you didn't do from there whatsoever. Deal?
SamHarris SamHarris
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Oct 7, 2014