Love Is A Many Splendid Thing...(can You See Me Rolling My Eyes???)

"Love, love, you know what love is? Love is an illusion created by lawyer types like yourself to perpetuate another illusion called marriage to create the reality of divorce and then the illusionary need for divorce lawyers." (Kevin played by Andrew McCarthy, St. Elmo's Fire, 1985).

I remember the first time I heard this line. I was 17, and in love. Well, I thought I was in love. But when it comes down to it, I am not sure that I believe in "in love" anymore. Oh, I have been "in love". Or as my law professor used to say, have the "love tumor."

There is the first rush of lust, the look that gives you butterflies in your stomach, leaves your mouth dry, makes you think of that person all the time. That is when the love tumor has just started to grow, so it really isn't affecting anything yet. You both are on your best behavior, doing sweet things to impress each other, hot in between the sheets because you are still discovering the buttons to push.

But then the tumor grows. And it presses on some nerve in the brain that starts to make you change. You start seeing the flaws in the other person, and wondering if that is really what you want to look at for the rest of your life. Some decide to walk away. Some decide they really don't want to be out there again searching for someone. And the very few actually find the person they were meant to share their life with.

We have all done it, let a relationship hang on too long, or ended it too soon. We have had it done to us, the heart shattered, crying, pleading, and then finally coming to the realization that it was for the best.

Love? It's just a word.

Marriage? Obsolete. Marriage does not make you safe. Marriage does not make you committed to someone. What is even the point anymore?

Romance: Simple. It's a fancy word for lust, horniness, wanting to get laid, and trying to ensure that you do.

So in the end, I think I will just smile, stay single, and quit waiting for the knight in shining armor. He is a fairytale.

"Kirby: You are just pissed off and bitter because you have not had sex in... how long? What is it... a year... maybe two? Refresh my memory please, Kevin. Haven't you heard of the sexual revolution?
Kevin: Who won, huh? Nobody. Used to be sex was the only free thing, No longer. Alimony... palimony... it's all financial. Love is an illusion.
Kirby: It's the only illusion that counts, my friend.
Kevin: Says who?
Kirby: Anyone who's been in love.
Kevin: Love sucks.
Kirby: So does your attitude."  St. Elmo's Fire, 1985.
LolaJ LolaJ
41-45, F
2 Responses Feb 25, 2011

took the words right outta my mouth.

Great lines. Wow, you're really disillusioned, aren't you? There's a lot of truth to what you wrote but fortunately for you, it's not everyone's story. I completely agree with you that true love is hard to find. All I can say is keep dating (just dinner or coffee) until you meet someone you like. The time to be critical is in the beginning. The thing I focused on were the values. And the deeds. And the relationship history. And how I was being treated. In the stock market past performance is no guarantee of future performance. With human beings it usually is.