It's Just Media Propaganda

The notion of Romantic love is fiction and it always has been, from the ancients on until modern times. Poetic license. And the media thrives on it, giving kids and young people expectations that will only leave them bitter and disappointed. My experiences were with TV shows in the late 1960's that showed husbands hugging their wives, tucking them in, bringing home gifts and surprises for them, and crap like that. And that is what it is - crap. I'm over 50 years old and I've been married twice, I've been in a half dozen relationships, and I have never once - NOT ONCE - experienced any of this. Men don't care what we women have to say, what we're interested in, how we feel, what we need, or any of that. They couldn't care less! You know how to experience the feeling I call love? Pets! My dog and my cat. They love me unconditionally, they accept me for who I am, they never judge me, never criticize me, and I know without a doubt that they will always listen to me. Humans, particularly men, seem incapable of any of these things, so I can't fully trust them. If I can't trust them, how could I ever love them?
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6 Responses Jan 23, 2013

I completely agree. Most men are liars and ********. Even the "nice" ones are likely to cheat on their wives. Anyone who thinks otherwise should hire a detective for their spouse. Ofcourse they never agree to do that. They prefer fantasy to reality.

I completely agree. Most men are liars and ********. Even the "nice" ones are likely to cheat on their wives. Anyone who thinks otherwise should hire a detective for their spouse. Ofcourse they never agree to do that. They prefer fantasy to reality.

So you've been with approximately 8 men, and you're gonna make a generalization about the other 3 + billion? What foolishness. You can't trust because you've become bitter, and you will remain that way until you choose to love yourself. Love forgives.

Wow, that sucks. My husband and I always cuddle, hold hands, kiss, he get's me gifts, and we say we love each other everyday.

Just after posting this, he surprised me with a treat.

For the most part, I agree with you. I don't think that men are wrong and women are right, but I think it seems like most men and women have completely different definitions of what love is and so they don't seem to able to give each other what they need. Maybe we are raised on too many fairy tales, maybe our expectations are out of whack. But I know that I don't believe in that kind of love anymore either. I didn't expect perfection. But I expected loyalty and commitment.

t seems to me that wedding vows should say, "Until death do you part, or until you change your mind," because that is really how it is now. Until you change your mind and decide you want to move on.

I agree about love from pets....unconditional and sweet. I also am blessed with great friends with whom I exchange as much support and love as humans are capable of. I think men and women can be great friends. The problems only start when that notion of romantic love creeps in.

I don't believe in love either but I disagree with much of what you have to say. My definition of love is caring for another more than you care for yourself. Although I think this may be possible for others I do not find it to be rational and therefor do not want to ever love. Despite this I would like a lifetime roommate who I share mutual respect with. You say men are incapable of caring about what a women has to say. My best friend is an emotional guy who most defiantly cares what his girlfriend has to say. Me on the otherhand...I try my best to listen because although I don't care for the subject matter or think any of a girls problems are as big as they make it out to be, I do truly care that they are happy. When the girl I like is happy it makes me happy. so in conclusion, although it is not a guarantee we will be interested in every one of your rambles...guys are definitely capable of caring how their girl feels. Also...constructive criticism is a very important thing in a relationship