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Growing Up Around Acceptance

Growing up, my next door neighbors, Steve and Paul lived together and it was never anything weird to me. I had a feeling they were gay and when I was older my mom told me they were. It made no difference to me if they were gay or straight. They were still my family's favorite neighbors and best friends. While I was in high school a lot of my friends turned out to be LGBTQ and for the most part I found out after we all graduated because the school we went to was way conservative. I remember hearing that one of my friends was openly gay all of a sudden so I FB chat with him and straight up asked him if he was gay and he was silent and then said yes. Then he asked me "Is it okay with you that I'm gay?" I decided to be a smarta$$ and tell him "Only if it's okay with you that I'm straight." haha...and he laughed it off and was happy to be out. Most of my closest friends are LGBTQ and it doesn't matter to me because they are my friends. My friendships were never based on who we love, it was based on trust and loyalty to one another. I have to admit, some of my friends had my head spinning when they came out because there were some of my guy friends that I never thought would be gay. So it was a little awkward at first because one of my guy friends was just starting to come out to people and when I'd talk to him about his boyfriend he'd get very weird about it and try to change the subject even though we were having a private conversation. He grew up in a very conservative (for Prop 8) household so he still hasn't come out to most people, especially not his parents because he feels ashamed of it and afraid of what they'll think. But I let him know on a regular basis that the people who matter will accept and love him for who he is. I just want others to know that no matter what a good portion of society says, you are perfect the way you are and you deserve every happiness to love the one you want to love.
InTheMiddle88 InTheMiddle88 22-25, F 9 Responses May 1, 2012

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That is soooo beautiful some of my guy friends are gay and his parents kicked him out of the house for that some times i feel so bad

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Beautifully written, you have a good soul.

Thanks so much. : )

You're very sweet :)<br />
God Bless you.<br />
When I had my first gay crush, I discussed it with my best friend. She thought I was kidding,but then supported me in every way. I cud never expect that from her, thought she would judge me. Im so happy I can share everything with her. But I will never confess to my parents...

I'm glad you were able to confide in your friend. Sometimes parents are the hardest people to confide in. Hopefully one day you'll be able to.

Hey inthemiddle88, <br />
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What a lovely post! It is really refreshing to know that there are such open minded people out there. I'm sure that your kindness, non-judgemental and supportive personality make for invaluable friendships for your friends - they are lucky to have you. <br />
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Thanks for writing this post, it is very inspirational = )

Thanks! : )

we can't help who we are as its entirely down to genetics,but many people still believe its a sin to be gay or bi so it is far harder to come out if your from a conservative religious family be it methodist or cathlic.

If people would just quit judgung others on what they do in bed or have chosen as their life style the world would be a better place. We have to many world problems to really care if Jack and Bill are in love or married, If Johnny down the street likes dresses or skirts. What about the appalachian family starving, the boy or girl who is abused , the unemployed, these are far more pressing issues that should be addressed. I'd rather have a gay or Tg person who cares more about others then some of these selfrighteous twits who are quick to condemn others but offer nothing for real issues of today.

Great post, shows you have a wonderful heart. Remember when friends come out to you to remind them that "those who matter don't mind, and those who mind don't matter." :-)

Thank You for showing some Love Hun!!