I Was A ***gin When I Got Married

It’s not that I didn’t want to have **x! No it was definitely not that. I wanted it, I fantasized about it, I almost slipped more than once. It’s not that I didn’t have the chance to get it! A number of times I had to walk away from situations where I almost gave in. And, there were also a few guys, full of integrity, who, when I was very week and would have given in, were kind enough and strong enough to do the walking away.

I spent a lot of time questioning ‘why’. Why had I been taught to wait until marriage? How bad could it be to just DO IT? How could it really hurt me? Everyone else was doing it. They seemed happy enough. It was very, very, VERY difficult. But, I waited. I waited until I was married. I was 24 and married a great guy. We had the chance to get to know each other’s likes, dislikes, hopes, dreams, goals, personalities etc. Now as an adult – I understand. I understand the that waiting until you are married strengthens your relationship and adds to your happiness.

I’m glad I waited. I wish more people would understand that you will have significantly increased happiness, by simply exercising some self control now.
A great article from WebMD: http://www.webmd.com/sex-relationships/news/20101227/theres-benefits-in-delaying-sex-until-marriage
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3 Responses Sep 14, 2012

What does this supposed story - in fact, a moralizing tale - have to do with the topic of this group????

May I inquire about your husband? Was he also a virgin when you married him?

You'll be happy until the day you discover he has sex with someone else. Then your whole world will come crashing down. It happens so many times...

Young lady, you are to be commended. There's a reason that there is gladness in your heart. You did the right thing.