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Just Found Out That My Daughter Is Gay And Has A Serious Girlfriend

And I don't care. I love her, shes beautiful and my first child. Shes from another relationship that didn't work out when I was a teenager.

I have 2 boys, they're from my current marriage. I asked my wife what she would think if one of our boys turned out to be gay. She said she would kick them out. I don't understand her and her hate for gay people. I think its her brand of Christianity. Its very right wing evangelical and I hate it.

I told her if one of them turns out to be gay, we'll just kick her out instead, she wasn't very happy.

That's my story.

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I like it but i need a boyfriend :(

you are an amazing father.
Your child is first no matter what.

Couldn't have been said better , I definitely agree

It is not a parents job to choose the paths of your children, it is our job to try and direct them when they are lost. We are not here to agree with their every decision only love them. No matter what, it is our job to love them unconditionally where nothing they can do or say would make you love them less.

GO DAD!

Yeah... you just avoided every Dad of a girl's NIGHTMARE of a horrendously bad boyfriend.

In a way, you got REALLY lucky, and I'd be hard pressed to say you didn't know it.

Honestly, I have to congratulate you, not on the kids being gay part, but the kids part in general. It sounds like they are all happy and healthy. You've done pretty good as a dad.

Awe, I love you! Thanks for being supportive toward your daughter. Trust me, it isn't easy for us to begin with and if people say hateful or won't accept us for who we are then that will only make us hate ourselves. Regarding your wife, I believe her being judgmental, not accepting and hateful toward someone else is not a Christian thing to do. I believe God's love is unconditional.

i wish i had a parent like you, my mum accepts me now, but it took her a while to get to this stage, due also to her strict upbringing. hats off to you :) your daughter is lucky :)

Awesome attitume mate, you are one of those who make this world beareble!!!! regards

Sir I doth my cap to you seriously. If one of my kids, nieces or nephews turned out gay or lesbian I'll just ask them to invite their significant other over for dinner - cuz if it's true love, who are we to judge?

i agree

Good for you! Your children are very lucky to have a supportive parent!

I also had an amazing Dad. He was a macho guy, an athlete in High School and a soldier in the US Army. My Dad was very intelligent and supported Gay Rights. He used to say "It doesn't matter what you love or who you love ... but THAT you love!" Both my Mom and Dad had gay friends and they were against prejudice and bigotry directed at any minority group. I am proud of their enlightened views and now that they are both gone, I miss them!

Stick to it. To kick out your child, as a parent or even stepparent, is a rejection that child might never get over. And it basically renounces the entire parental role. Just because you've seen or heard of other parents doing it. Kicking out your child when there is a problem (especially something the child was born with) shows in a big way the opposite of solving and working through problems.. it says if there is a disagreement we walk away, turn our back, take back said love. What a horrible way of life to expose children to over a disagreement between supposed loved ones. I hope you stay strong and help your family to see love and not fear.

i wish i had a dad like u.

As a lesbian myself I say thank you. Coming out to my parents was one of the hardest things I've done in my life. My mom also a catholic showed nothing but love. You are an amazing Dad and would only pray for more parents like you. I too have lost friends due to their parents "kicking them out". Does it really matter who we love as love as we love? Again thank you from the bottom of my heart.

"...I told her if one of them turns out to be gay, we'll just kick her out instead."

*hands over dad of the year award*

As parents our support means so much to our children. My son is also gay and I will always be there for him. He's my best friend...I don't know how I would get through life without him...I have 3 other children and love them all..however our bond is awesome. I remember I had a friend and while we were at work she was crying,I asked her if she was OK she said she just got a phone call that her best friend committed suicide because her mom didn't accept her. So I SAY its OK to accept our children no matter what...we are all Gods children. GOD BLESS

As parents our support means so much to our children. My son is also gay and I will always be there for him. He's my best friend...I don't know how I would get through life without him...I have 3 other children and love them all..however our bond is awesome. I remember I had a friend and while we were at work she was crying,I asked her if she was OK she said she just got a phone call that her best friend committed suicide because her mom didn't accept her. So I SAY its OK to accept our children no matter what...we are all Gods children. GOD BLESS

Kudos dude! I am sure there are too many kids now days that would give anything for a dad as understanding as you.

some one eles got sucked in to the gay life God love even one gay but not the sin

Thanks for sharing. It's awesome to see that there are people with great hearts out there who are making the world a better place one person at a time. Let's hope your wife opens her mind as much as you have

GREAT story. Thank you :)

Lol. The absolutely right response. Love it. Haters are tough to understand but way to go for loving your daughter in all her glory :)

Nothing is more powerful and fulfilling that finding someone to love and they love you back. It's about happiness. I am catholic but have learned through relationships that a healthy happy relationship is more important than anything. If she is happy that has to make you happy and proud.

You are a wonderful, supportive Dad. You absolutely did the right thing- don't listen to anyone who says otherwise.

Most of us are made with an imperative to copulate, raise our offspring to their age of reproduction, and live enough longer to encourage them to repeat the same. Every species must reproduce or perish. The heterosexual is going to take great offense at any non-reproductive intimate personal relationship, appropriately. The wide variation of sexual imperatives and personalities give us opportunities to praise creation. We are who we are, and others are who they are. If I understood all of it, I would be god. Parents, please visit pflag.org for some more information. Enjoy!

Our Christian church told us we must disown our lesbian child. We chose to love the daughter God had given us and abandon their social club that causes so much pain and splits families. That was 20 years ago, and we are proud of her.

Agree entirely with you. If you don't stand up for your ow, then no-one else will.

I really can't see how people can let religion rule their mind and hearts. It's like saying that you are unable to make decisions for yaself and this is how to live your life. Gets my goat a wee bit, ggrrrr...

you are correct. They use religion as an excuse for every act that they make. That way when they screw up , or hurt someone , or treat someone badly they can use their religion as an excuse and the reason for their actions. They never have to be accounable for anything they do. Master1A

It is so amazing to Me that a religion that is supposedly based on love and tolerance for all people that there is so much hatred and bigotry.... "christians " that act that way are the reason that I turned to My own alternative beliefs... you do have the right idea. Kick her bigot *** to the curb. Shes just a wife and you can get another, the kids are your own blood... Support them. Master1A

Lol loved your response as that would of been mine aswell.
My half brother is gay (same Mother different Fathers) they are wonderfull people just like anybody else and have alot of hurt that society puts on them with not accepting them for who they are. My friend just found out about her daughter being gay and will not accept it at all, tell me she is ashamed of her and she is an embarassment to the family. I bought her Ellen Degeneres Moms book but she can't bring herself to read it.