If Ur Gay In My Culture, It Means Death:(

In My culture I'm sad to say that if Ur gay,lesbian or transgender you are frowned and discriminated upon. And even sometimes murdered or forced to hide.:'( . But in this case its a family member he is gay but he is afraid to come out. we all know that he is gay. But because of our culture he is afraid that we might not accept him anymore. MOST OF MY FAMILY MEMBERS wont accept him. but at the end of the day he is in his 20's.Move out if they don't accept u.I can see that he is very depressed he doesn't know what to do with himself. But we that dnt give a flying **** what he likes d*cks and ***. We have no idea how to make him comfortable. But because he heart his filled evil n deceit , he's thinks we r going to treat him like that. I feel bad for him that he cant free and live his life. When he eventually doe COME OUT, if wont b able to stay at our home anymore but at least he will comfortable.

If u have any suggestions to help me, so that i can help my cousin to express his feelings to the fam. Please assist thank u!
ImAWomanScorned4ever ImAWomanScorned4ever
18-21, F
4 Responses Dec 15, 2012

I UNDERSTAND HIS POSITION, HE WANNA COME OUT AND BE FREE, AND UNLOAD THOSE 10 TON BRICKS OFF HIS SHOULDERS, BUT HE DOESN'T WANNA LOSE HIS FAMILY'S LOVE & SUPPORT HERE AND IN YOUR COUNTRY. @ THE END OF THE DAY. HE HAS A HUGE CHOICE 2 MAKE ALL ON HIS OWN. BE FREE AND LOSE SOME FAMILY MEMBERS. OR BE TRAPPED IN THE MIND FOREVER, AND HAVE THE ENTIRE FAMILY'S RESPECT. I HOPE 4 THE BEST. I SAY #FREETHESOUL

i agree with you..But he is grown he shouldnt b afraid tho..sigh

He's gonna lose his family but once he leaves the house he can whatever he wants.

that's so true, but he is so content that he doesn't want to grow up and leave

He should try to get education and citizenship out of your country, that is the safe way to do it. It must be for "education" to get out, then he can work on a dual citizenship elsewhere while getting educated. It's very hard but if it means freedom from oppression and possible death it's worth the fight.

i mean we dnt live in our country anymore we live in the us now.. but our tradition still follows, we stil have family back home so, i guess he just afraid of the outcome sigh

Oh well... Don't have to tell the family back home I suppose. That's the beauty of here in the USA, generally free to be any person you wish to be. I am gay from a family who is pretty much strictly against it, but everything turned out alright. All he needs to know is that his immediate family loves him no matter what, that's it. He needs to let his affection flow freely to find him self, keeping it all locked up is worse than being turned away by a group. Perhaps he meet some people like him, like minds that understand him. Not here on EP, it has to be real people, not to meet for sex, to meet and talk, become friends. A heavy mind can set at ease if the weight of the thoughts is aloud to flow out, a like mind and like situation friend can be a huge help.

thats a tough one ,,may be he is better off keeping it hid

yea ur right but its annoying that he has to lie n leave the various times in the night to have sex

true but he is still getting some sex,,,if he came out with it he would be watched more