I Have Learned How
You know how it works with forgiveness. We fling out the "I'll never forgive you!" and hold onto the pain, torture, ill-feelings, betrayal, feeling stupid, our self-worth, self-esteem and self-image crumbling to dust. We lose trust, become relationship-shy, cynical, bitter, filled with hatred, acid burns our stomach, our heart is broken and suffers with stress-related physical effects. But we continue to hold on to unforgiveness, even becoming proud for doing so.
If we took time to examine this intellectually, rather than emotionally, we realise they do NOT deserve another moment of messing our lives up. How? Forgive them. Let it go. Put it behind you and push forward. Attend to yourself and examine where you are hurt and broken and take back the power you handed to them! Forgiveness is about freeing yourself first and foremost.
Most times the other person goes on living a great life, unconcerned about you and your trauma and your wrecked life, or knowing but not caring or perhaps even revelling in it. Do yourself the greatest service you can - and forgive! For yourself X@