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I Know I Am, But You Are, Too

I thought that children were supposed to be able to talk to their fathers. I thought that the paternity role would be enough to keep us close. But recently, it has become clear that my father and I do not get along. It's been quite a long time in the making, but I still wish it were different.

I realize that I am very argumentative. I have been since I learned to talk, and if you haven't figured that out in the two decades I've been alive, then maybe you're as stupid as you implied that I am. But not everything I say is meant to be an argument. Sometimes, I'm providing you with information that you wouldn't otherwise have known. That's because, though you might like to think differently, you don't know everything about everything. Why can't you realize that I'm an adult, too? It was fine to play the dominating role when I was still a child, but I'm an adult, and my sister is, too. We have enough experience to know things that perhaps you don't, so why is it so hard to accept that we could teach you something?

This internship I received is the opportunity of a lifetime. I'm excited, but I'm also scared. All I asked for is your support, and all you do is mock the position, and mock me. Do you realize that this company's internship program has a less than 15% acceptance rate? That means, out of the five thousand people that applied this year, less than 750 made it in. Probably not even 500. But no, that doesn't matter to you, does it? The fact that I'm going to work for a Fortune 100 company makes no difference to you. But you'd find something wrong with anything I choose to do, wouldn't you? I know I maybe used the wrong tone of voice to tell you what I KNOW they wouldn't allow me to do as an intern. But that is NO excuse to ask me if I'm stupid for interrupting you (which, by the way, I did not). While I am your daughter, I am also a human being. I deserve the same respect as anyone else you talk to. Would you speak that way to your boss? Probably not. How about mom? I sure hope not.

What just kills me is that, when I do something wrong, anyone in the house, especially you, can say anything they want to me. But if you do something wrong, God forbid I say a word against you! Because everyone knows that I don't know anything, and you are the smartest person alive.

I might be an idiot, dad, but so are you.
writewithwit writewithwit 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27, 2012

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Wow this is exactly how I feel... My dad is a great man but I he believes that I must take care of him since he took care of me even though he talks to me without respect. I am in the same boat as you are but my situation is probobly worst since I still live at home even though I recently graduated college. I hate having bad feelings about my dad which I used to view as my hero but I cannot help to feel this way.

This is the same with me and my dad minus the adult part. He think I'm always arguing and/or being rude and that he is always right.It has gotten to the point I have literally stepped out the door to run away. But I decided I have 7 more years till I can move out, so I will wait. I also have slight anger issues and we both have a suborness issue. So I hope your problem gets fixed while I work on mine.