My Sister Lives In Her Own World

My sister is five years older than I am and we seem to live on two different planets.  I am realistic about my  life and always open with her about my successes and failures.  She on the other hand, lies straight to my face to make herself look good.  I don't know if this is some kind of disorder or if she just feels crappy about herself and feels like she can't tell the truth.

She lives in such a dream world that she has steered two of her three kids into schools that are getting them no where and between her and her husband they have driven the oldest out of the state.  The whole family rolls their eyes when she talks about what she is doing and how much her husband makes.  They are not supportive when I make a decision that they would not have made and it seems as if those times are the best opportunities for her to tell me how wonderful things are for her.

It drives me crazy and I would rather just avoid her.  For my parents, I have put up with it but I wonder if someday I will lose it and scream, "You are lying!" right to her face.

I also think sometimes that she isn't really lying.  She honestly believes the crap that comes out of her mouth.


I cannot be her friend and that makes my mom sad.  What can I do?

Anna101a Anna101a
31-35, F
3 Responses Feb 21, 2010

My story is a little different, but I can't help but wonder if my relationship with my sister my be like yours and your sisters someday. I am 19 and my sister is three years younger than me. I know there has got to be something mentally rong with her, because she also lies and lies and I think she really does think these things are true. <br />
I have tried to be her sister, her friend, but nothing pleases her. She is always the victum, and thinks that everyone is against her, no matter how many times we (my family and I) insist otherwise. How do you deal with it?

Anna...I am going through the same thing with my sister...she is 12 years older than I am. I feel as if I am going to explode, especially today. They always say kill some one with kindness but in this situation its no win. For the most part I distance myself and ignore her...I really want to let her know how I feel but I know she will miss the point. I have had a cousin of mine say I'm strong and thats your sister you need to let things rest. The thing is as I'm sure you will know it can't rest...its the principle. The whole situation has really made me try an find outlets for the toxic energy. I do yoga, pilates and running. From time to time I journal. I always wonder at what age does the sibling rivary end?

You wrote exactly what I lived. I finally walked out & never saw her again.A life time of the same old just had to end. I'm happier for it too.