Uggh

i dont know i wish i got along better with my mom because dont get me wrong i love her to death but jeez i dont think two people could be more different.. she doesnt understand me and she thinks she does.. everything i do she thinks is wrong and she thinks im like the worst daughter in the world. And although i know i can be difficult i really think im a pretty good daughter. She just bugs me so much.. like yesterday- mothers day- i was trying to make the day perfect so u know me and my sister got her a card and some chocolates and she only thanks my sister.. i try to clean the house and shes like no ur not doing it right let me do it i was like okay whatever.. and she tries to control my life i mean im getting older ill be out of the house soon and she doesnt seem to get that im capable of making my own decisions...
urinfluence urinfluence
18-21, F
6 Responses May 14, 2007

Sounds like my mum when I was living at home... She kicked me out thinking I would fail an come crawling back - that back fired big time and now I am living a successful life wanting her to be proud of what I have achieved but she isn't to her I am still living my life wrong. I don't have my family in my life and I still don't know how to deal with it... I hope things can work out for you and your mum

I am having horrible times with my mom. I used to live with my father in another city, but them i went to university and it is in the city my mother lives, so i started living with her and with my eleven year old sister, again. My god, i forgot how different we are! I am here for not more than two months and she is driving me crazy, i really can't stand anymore! I dream about living in another place, but i don't have the money to rent a room and i am scared that this kind of thing could make us more distance. I really don't know what to do with my relationship with my mom, but sometimes i just wish i disappeared.

I am having horrible times with my mom. I used to live with my father in another city, but them i went to university and it is in the city my mother lives, so i started living with her and with my eleven year old sister, again. My god, i forgot how different we are! I am here for not more than two months and she is driving me crazy, i really can't stand anymore! I dream about living in another place, but i don't have the money to rent a room and i am scared that this kind of thing could make us more distance. I really don't know what to do with my relationship with my mom, but sometimes i just wish i disappeared.

Hang on, dear! You're not the only one with this kind of problem.<br />
My mom is kinda the same, we both love each other very much, but we're just way too different at anything! She's so stubborn, so she will always think that she is 'right' one and I'm the one who is always 'wrong'..<br />
Funny thing, she only shows her stubborn-es with her family (including me, her mom *my grandma*, her sisters, her ex-husband *my dad*, etc) when she's around her friends, she can be so fun and caring.. :/<br />
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I can only advice you to hang on. At the end, she is still your mom, she's always gonna be your mom. Your only mom. Don't forget to always pray to GOD! He will help you through the hard times. I know this for a fact.<br />
You may not 'dislike' your mom, but try to always respect her. But, when it's just too hard, just calm yourself for a while, find your own happiness, ignores your mom for a while.<br />
I know you may feel like that you're the only one who's putting the effort, but think of it in this way "because I'm simply a better person than her".<br />
I hope one day your mom will realize that she has a wonderful and perfectly fine daughter, and try to look in the mirror, and fix herself.<br />
And you can always try to deepen your relationship with God ;)

has she every stold your money??????????

My mother is the same. She treats me and my sister completely differently, it is bizarre. if i am with her on my own she is a different person and then if my sister shows up, the switch is instant. It is hard to not feel resetntment. I feel for my dad, he is completely nagged non stop. no one will say anything about it because we are all too scared of her horrible temper. I try to think about the things she does rather thant he things she says, but it is not easy. then i feel guilty for hating her when she has done so much for me. I dont understand why it is so hard to just be nice. The decision thing is so frustrating, she watches me do something and has to hold herself back from taking over, then if she does manage to keep quiet about it, she will start looking for something else to yell about. I DO NOT want to turn into that, and so I allow myself to be bullied because I dont want to be a loud yelling cow. it does nt matter how old you get, they still want to take over and be the one in charge. I think she just had us so she had people to dictate over