My Son Wont Pay His Court Ordered Child Support...I love and miss my son but I am very disappointed in the fact that he will not pay his court ordered child support.
He also will not see his child. I don't know what to say so I had to take his pictures down around my house. You can only tell a child for so long that Daddy is working. Even at 3 he is not stupid. Now he just says, Daddy is gone.
This makes so sense to me since we fought for his right to see his child, and the child support was very fair.
But, he met another woman and she does not want my grandson to be part of their lives. She has manipulated my son since the beginning of their relationship to get him away from his son and the rest of his family. At one point she even had my son believing she tried to kill herself so he would leave his son.
He was strong, for about 6 months, but then her lies won him over and suddenly he wont talk to me or the rest of our family.
My main goal is the best for my grandson, because he is the child in this situation and he needs support and love.
These are young kids, early 20s, and they made a lot of mistakes. But my grandson is not one of them. My father and I have been very generous with my son, too much so. My father is 91 years old and he paid 30k for a car for my son...now he wont even go see my father who is dieing. He is mad at the entire family and has cut off all contact with all of us.
My son is now married to "this women" and of course I was not invited to the wedding. I am not a part of his life because
I put my grandson first.
Given the choice of my son or my grandson, I have to take the side of my grandson because he is 3 years old and needs all the help, love and support I can give him. Does not mean that I miss my son less. It just means that I had a very hard choice.
Although I live in a state that boasts the fact that child support must be paid, getting it from people who work "under the table" in order not to pay is very hard. My son works for his new wife's family and they lie so he wont have to pay child support.
I wish they would take his drivers license away and even put him in jail. I think that would make him pay it.
I worry so much because I am almost at retirement age and I don't know who is going to take care of my grandson when I no longer can
The law needs to get behind single mothers and fathers to get the support they need.
Even though I love and miss my son, he needs to pay his child's - even if he wont see his son.
SadMadMom 56-60, F 4 Responses 0 Sep 8, 2011