A Vindictive MiserI left my control-freak husband when I lost all trust in him.
By that time he knew that the only way he could hurt me was by using our daughter as his 'weapon'.
There then followed a nightmare 4-year long fight to get a divorce.
He says he loves our daughter more than anything on the planet.
Yet he has never paid a penny in child support for her. He regards it as having to give *me* money - not as providing for our child.
Some of his avoidance tactics include:
- leaving his job to avoid having to make any child support payments.
- lying to the CSA and telling them his weekly income was £0
- He stayed in our house and repeatedly failed to pay the mortgage. His hope was that the property would be repossessed and I would have no equity to claim. (Luckily the house was sold just days before this happened!)
We have a shared custody agreement, which I hate. I never intended to be a part-time parent.
HIS take on the agreement is that we share costs - ie her expenses are paid by whichever parent she happens to be with at the time.
Of course that doesn't happen! Only last week she rang me to tell me that her school shoes needed replacing, and that her father had told her to call me and arrange a time for me to take her out and buy new ones. He reckoned that because the shoes were less than 6 months old, I should take them back to the store and get a refund. I spoke to the stupid man and reminded him that it was his obligation to buy the shoes. But he didn't do it, of course.
This kind of stuff happens all the time.
I only have a part-time job which pays very little. (My very poor sickness record prevents me from getting a new job - in fact I can barely hold on to the one I have.)
And all the while there is this vindictive tosser in the background trying to make me look like a fool in front of our daughter.
I HATE HIM.
Thank You. Rant Over.