My ex left me and my boys to move to Europe to work, in 2004. What he failed to do at that time was to make sure that he had a job to go to. It turns out he is an alcoholic. He has been very sporatic in keeping in touch with his 2 sons, my sons. He has moved around and been in and out of the hospital. He currently is in rehab, doing a 6 month therapy. Atleast that is what he tells me. He could not even be bothered to send a Christmas card to them. But he did manage to dress up as Santa for his girlfriends 2 sons. That hurts me so much for them.