I am a father of a preteen girl who to this day I don't understand. She doesn't live with me or my wife, she lives with her mom. She is a beautiful young lady who I know will make mistakes, we all do. My question though is why does she keep doing things that she knows is going to get her into trouble with me. I try to show her positive feedback only and don't get too negative even though there have been times I should have. Here recently I caught her with a Zoosk account searching out dates from older men, way older (40 plus) men. She's 12 for crying out loud. Why is she behaving like this? I immediately called her mother and explained what I found out. This is not acceptable behavior from my daughter. Not even two weeks later I catch her in a lie to me. I asked her a question and she blatantly lied to me. Again I do not accept this behavior and reprimanded her for it. Now this last deal has really got me, in many ways. She posted on her Facebook account (I didn't want her to have it, her maternal grandmother created it for her) that she was going to find a way to get out of my sisters wedding and go to some stupid haunted house. Now I understand when your 12 that some people aren't cool anymore but when it's your Aunt, who would have done anything for you and has proven that time and time again, why? Is she trying to remove herself from my family because of something that her other family has said? Is she trying to see how far she can push my buttons? I don't understand how she can do this to us. To say that I am hurt by her actions lately would be a gross understatement. What can I do to bring back my girl who used to love coming to my house. Instead she tries to find a way to get out of coming over. I don't want to be the dad who is hated by their kids because he's not fun, yet I don't want to be the dad whose fun and kids don't treat people with respect and have dignity. What am I doing wrong? I honestly feel like I don't want anything to do with her over this. I can't stand for it. I don't appreciate being lied too, having a daughter that tries to go behind my back and flat out doesn't want to be with me. I'm sad to say this but I'm about to give up and let her do her own thing and say goodbye. Is that wrong of me? What is wrong with me?