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"Attention World!" - a Plea From a Non-facebooker

Hello, world.

If you don't mind, I would like to make an announcement about something that you don't seem to understand: I am 17 years old and I don't have a facebook. No, that doesn't mean I'm confused or have any screws lose. It doesn't mean I'm an anti-social or a misanthrop.  I simply don't want one. period.

You all can label me with all the expected brands: social outcast, reject of civilization, loner, loser, hermit, freak, or even alien being.  But I will let you know, that I am perfectly fine with any of these names so that it means that I will never have to login to that hell of a site on an addictive, daily basis. 

My life is very different from most of your lives, adolescent America.  I will never be invited to any events, never be taged in a picture, never "like" anyone's status, and never join one of your campains clubs for the rest of enternity. While to many of you this seems like an empty and tragic exsistence, I would like to notify you all that I am still alive. I am functioning and living a normal lifestyle in the absence of facebook.

So please, world, hear my plea. Don't judge us non-facebook folk. We are humans too, and we have feelings. While we are not connected to every single one of you through the virtual web, we are still people. We live and eat and breath just like the rest of you.  Don't be afraid to talk to us. We are not unable to carry on a normal conversation because we don't wall-to-wall.  We do have real names; just because you looked us up with no results doesn't mean we don't exist. If you have it your heart, give us a chance.

Sincerely,

A human living without facebook

 

muffledlight muffledlight 18-21, F 19 Responses Jul 26, 2009

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i dont have a facebook either, still. I thought I didnt need it or that it was stupid, which it still is. However, I realized that i should have had one just to stay in contact with friends, and now that I want to make one I think it's too late and no one will friend me, or even remember me.

I see nothing wrong with you not having Facebook. You sound like you know who you are and what you are all about and are secure with it, you are your own person. I don't have Facebook because if I want somebody to know something about me, I will tell them. If I haven't told them, it is none of their business. I am not a snotty person, but a private person who is choosy of who I let into my business. If somebody wants me to know something about them, they can tell me or I personally don't feel the need to know, and if they don't take the time to make time for me, I don't want to know their business either.

I had a facebook account. I enjoyed it until it seemed like the whole world was on it & then i wanted to avoid it. So I closed down my account. Sometimes the facebook world is a fake world because people put up pictures that they want others to them in, they say things on the other people's pages so others will see what they wrote. When birthday time comes, people are competing for how many birthday wishes they received. To me, the experience project feels more authentic and this is what I am sticking with.

I had a facebook account. I enjoyed it until it seemed like the whole world was on it & then i wanted to avoid it. So I closed down my account. Sometimes the facebook world is a fake world because people put up pictures that they want others to them in, they say things on the other people's pages so others will see what they wrote. When birthday time comes, people are competing for how many birthday wishes they received. To me, the experience project feels more authentic and this is what I am sticking with.

I wouldn't even compare EP to facebook. EP may eventually devolve into such, but for now its members are of a much better quality overall. I think this site attracts a better demographic naturally whereas any schmuck has a facebook account so they can prove their life is full of much more wonderful things than all their 'friends'.

well really all online sites cater to the attentionies. it's pretty unavoidable, they're everywhere. I have nothing against those who use facebook or anything, just all the negativity I would get for not having one.<br />
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The other day, I came into school and literally 90% of people were wearing pajama's. I was like, wtf. I walked up to a friend of mine and he says, "Jessssss, where are your pajama's?!" <br />
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I say, "Since when is it pajama day?"<br />
Him: "It was all over facebook last night silly."<br />
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I felt quite out of the loop haha. I guess they couldn't have just maybe said it over the announcements or something like that.<br />
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then I was kind of scared. I mean, what if they start announcing snow days on facebook? Or that school is canceled for another bomb threat? (okay that's an exaggeration but still)<br />
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anyway, I feel like my grandma when they stopped making VCRs.

Good for you. Facebook caters to the attention *****. Feel blessed that you are not one, unless you refuse Facebook merely to say you do. ;)

yeh its really detrimental that people will leave such bad comments. hell if she doesn't want one she doesn't want big deal. move on people. It's like hey why don't start criticizing people for having facebook. see my point? we all like different things so there's no point in criticizing.

yeh its really detrimental that people will leave such bad comments. hell if she doesn't want one she doesn't want big deal. move on people. It's like hey why don't start criticizing people for having facebook. see my point? we all like different things so there's no point in criticizing.

you don't have to joined all the online network on the internet; if you don't want it; it's your prerogative. at least you're on EP and is a very great site.

I was one of the first ones to have a Myspace. It was just bad news for me so i quit it. I resisted Facebook for a long time, then i joined. For about a month... then it pissed me off and i closed my account. I just don't need that adolescent drama in my life and i respect others who feel that way. (however, i'm an old almost-30 yo and i don't pretend to be a social personality)

haha, your friend sounds a lot like me in my History class last year.<br />
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I know that's it's very useful for a lot of people, and there a lot of reasons why people have facebook, I just personally don't have the use for it in that way.. I guess, ha.

I agree to a point. It's a tool first and foremost, but what I don't get is the need for people to let everyone they know what they're doing every minuete of every day.I am going on a social networking break for a good long while(besides this of course)

Facebook is a bit overrated, true. I block all those annoying invitations, so I simply don't get them anymore. You can block anything you want.<br />
BUT it's a great tool to keep in touch with friends, especially when you're away at college or back home from college. Family friends keep in touch with me through it, too.<br />
I like it.<br />
And also.. it's great to keep people in your life. There are people I would have never seen again in my life if it wasn't for facebook.<br />
I had a friend who was so proud to not have one. At college orientation last summer, we were in a lecture hall of 500 people.. he was the only one who raised his hand when the advisers said "who DOESN'T have a facebook?" Haha.. well he gave in the first week of college.

Well it's not that I'm against online networks or anything. I mean, I love EP. It's just that I find facebook to be a bit ovrated and I think a lot of people just do it to stay within "the circle" of their peers. Basically, I have no use for it because I really have nothing to do on that site, and everyone (for the most part) who I was friends with on it lived within 10 minutes of me haha. So I get your point there babo. <br />
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This is why I love EP. I can talk to people I don't get a chance to talk to everyday and I can actually do something productive.. more productive than.. "poking." :)

good im not alone!!!!!!im 18 and ive never had a sconex, facebook o myspace account. yea ppl think im cazy but there is so much more to life than sitting in front of a screen talking to ppl u dnt kno, having mundane conversations about ur latest "poke" on f.b i think that ppl that spend countless hours on these websites are afraid to let anyone kno the real them ya kno. it's so easy to be kool and sexy over the internet but it's so boring for me. wat happened to the days where u would go outside and see the kids playing tag or throwin around a ball? there are gone and replaced by ppl on websites talking to morons about nada and getting fat b/c all they do is stare at a screen for 8 hrs and stuff their face. nothing against these sites but it's kinda ridiculous that ppl see this as the only way to be social. wat ever happened to face to face conversations about an actual issue? not oh i love cuttiepie_gurlz new pics, imma send he a smilie....smh am i the only person that feels this way????????

i admire that you are sticking to your guns and not have a facebook acct. <br />
i wish i could do that but i can't since facebook is my only way of communication to some people. <br />
i'm really starting to hate facebook because of this one guy. everytime i go on there, i am reminded of him. Life is better w/o Facebook.<br />
I'm taking a Facebook break.

I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter :( But that's good to hear that she's doing well and enjoying life.<br />
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And.. I'm sorry if the way that I wrote this story is misleading, but I'm actually fine. It's just that I get a lot of criticism from friends and people my age saying I'm "weird" or "an outcast" for not taking part in the social events of facebook or myspace, ha, so I was mostly being sarcastic in my attempts to get them to understand me and not tease me about my refusal to maintain a facebook. basically, teasing them back for not being accepting of my choice to delete my account. It was just me displaying my... dry sense of humor.<br />
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again.. I'm sorry :(

Wow, - You have just said alot.... But my impression of you is that you have a disability of some kind. You dont feel that it is useful for you to be involved in the facebook community or any other social networks.. <br />
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I do want to tell you that I have a daughter who is in a wheelchair, she has cerebral palsy. now she does live as close to a normal life as possible. she goes to college by using public transportation and has a boyfriend. she is permanently unable to walk and has a speech impairment. however, she has a facebook page and a myspace page and gets lots of joy out of meeting new people and keeping herself busy by checking her messages etc....