I'm So Lonely Without Anyone. I Am Shy And Depressed

Hi I'm Jill and im 26 from md and married. All I have is my husband and I don't have no friends. I'm dying to have a friend so lonely. I have soical anxiety and depression.I had a few friends going up but nothing close. I'm so sad and so lonely that I feel like I'm invisible to the world with no purpose but to be alone. I hope someone is willing to talk to me. Thanks!
Jillianalexis00 Jillianalexis00
26-30, F
15 Responses Aug 2, 2010

i will be your friend & a listening ear of you so wish. i feel lonely & isolated pretty much all the time everyday. ep helps alot though!

Wow I read your story and felt like I could have written it my self. I have the same problems with social aniexty etc. Makes it really hard to make friends. I am here if you want to chat.

Hi Jill. You're not alone...I'm in the exact same situation. I just joined this site and it's helped to at least have contact with people even if it is just through the computer.

I feel you Jill, I'm a 31 year old male, I don't really <br />
have any friends. I hate weekends, they just remind of how<br />
Awful my life is. It's Friday night and I have no plans. My cousins having a birthday party but I have a social anxiety so o don't really want to go. Only found out about it through facebook on my brothers page,<br />
He was invited. I do have a girlfriend but<br />
I don't how much of this she can put up with. I lost a few girls due to this. My God help me.

I want to help. Want to share your thoughts? Write back if you wish to.

Hi Jill,<br />
You didn't say what kind of relationship you have with your husband. If it's good enough, I don't think you should have any business feeling VERY lonely. If it's not as good as you think it should be, I would suggest you talk about your feelings with your husband and above all talk to God about it in prayers. I've learnt myself to be isolated at times without feeling "alone". There are a lot of things you can only discover about yourself by being all by yourself. Friendship is not an antidote to loneliness. If it was so, none of the star artists in the world would know anything about the word "loneliness". It's a state of mind. I'd rather you use the time you have now to discover yourself and prepare yourself for the future of your family. I'm my wife's best friend and she's my best friend. I never knew that I could live my life with just the two of as best friends, but it's an investment worth making. Please, pray and then talk to your husband about how you feel. Don't expose yourself to all the wolves out there looking for other men's wives to ravage. Friendship will happen in due time as long as you believe in yourself, appreciate what you have and be confident of a better tomorrow.

hi jill<br />
lets talk im 56yr old man and very lonely<br />
contact me

Such a shame you feel this way. If it weren't for your social anxiety, I would strongly suggest that you go an join dance classes. For example, I had few friends and I joined a salsa class, by myself. Yes, I had to join in with a bunch of strangers, but after a few weeks going there, I got to know a few people after a while and made friends. If you are getting therapy for your social anxiety then perhaps you could then work on doing some sort of hobby and meet new people!! Good luck

hi Jesus is also wanting you He died to have you as a friend jesus will help you cast your cares on him as he cares for you , Jesus wants your cares just give them to him <br />
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visit a church tell them that you need friends and see what happens <br />
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cheers and blessings to you

Hi Jill <br />
I feel the same way that your invisble i feel the same way to me I feel like everyone makes friends so easy and me I never make any friends I am nice person and I am friendly but even that wont get me any friends I feel like I will never make friends no matter what .

Hello Jill. Be positive. Look at your self and see the good things about yourself. This will give you strength and a positive outlook and allow you to look for and make new friends.

I feel for u Jill and all who commented too. I also feel the same way. It is so sad that there is so many people in the world that we can't even make friends or people who wants to get to know us.

Hi Jill. I'm 30, married, and have two sons. I also don't have any friends. My husband and I have one or two couples that we will occasionally hang out with, but this is due to his friendships with the men, not mine with the women. In one instance, the girl and I used to be friends, but have grown apart in the last year and now only see or speak to each other when our husbands plan a get together. We grew apart due to several factors, one being that I just don't have the time or inclination to run around to bars, or to do things like back stab and gossip constantly about others.<br />
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I don't feel extremely lonely...I have the hubs and kids at home, work full-time and go to school full-time, and have a pretty supportive extended family. I have work friends, but we don't see each other outside of the office, and I'm so much older than the other college students that I don't make friends there either. I'm very easy going, talkative, and, I feel, likable. I just can't seem to make that connection with that one person. I guess that's what I lack...that one close girlfriend. I consider my husband to be my best friend. Maybe that's the problem, I don't know.<br />
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What I do feel though is isolated. I don't have that close female friend to confide in and vent to and laugh with like I used to, so I know how you feel.<br />
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I hope that, even though I don't really have advice, that just knowing that there are others out there who are like you, and who you can connect to via the Internet will let you know you are not alone, and that friends can be found in the most unlikely places.<br />
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I hope you have a wonderful week hon.

very nice words!
:)

hi am lonely aswell dont have any friends at all no family but hey i always try and look on the brite side at least i have my health and strenght

dear Jill ! <br />
Don't be so depressed like that, i was in your situation before because i always think that i do not have a real friend and feel that i was invisible , no one cared ab me, ....But i was wrong, i realized that be positive, happy and always care ab another , y will get a close friend.<br />
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hey hey hey let's smile and joyful. you know a woman has a humor of sense could drawn so much of friends <i>