Jealous About All the People With Friends

Hey guys,

My normel feelings are already dead. Only thing thats left is lonliness. I moved from another country to Canada. I though I will enjoy this place, but instead it led me to a meaningless life.

Went to two different high school, and because of my weak communication skill, I left alone. Joined the Facebook, and added couple of known people. I posted msg, some thing funny, something interesting, but got no replies. Half of the time I was looking thru other's photoes and always wished to be there in the photoes.

High school passed and currently I'm in a university. Though I got some "so called" friends,  I feel lonely. I never been invited to any events, whether it is a private parties or huge birth day parties.

I am a straight guy and always always looking for at least a friend girl ( for get a girl friend, I have to kill my slef to get one), nobody wants me. I feel like I'm ugly, unwanted, and born for no purpose.

I hate being like this.

MrLoneliest MrLoneliest
7 Responses Apr 17, 2009

i am like you as well, don't get invited to anything, no friends, even less a girl.<br />
i am trying though, getting out there, going to the bar with the mates, etc. hope all goes well for you lad.

sorry pal, but like many people said, youre not alone in this. in all honesty i don't really think itll help you any reading that because it doesn't help me when people say that load of crap to me. i know they have good intentions but it just doesn't make it any better. I really don't know what to tell you dude, because im in the same situation and i dont' know what to do neither. so i guess all i can is good luck, because thats the only thing that seems true. good luck pal.

I have often felt the same way about things (except at the moment I don't even have any 'so called friends')...However, I must agree with srhj...I definitely think you should try to join some clubs...At my last university, this is what provided the platform for me to at least meet people and get out to do things every once in awhile...It may have taken a bit, but I eventually really developed some good friendships with people I met through this one club...and most of the best memories I have from that university happened with that club...just a suggestion though :)

You are not alone, there are people who feel exactly like you do in the biggest of crowds, I know i can be among 20 people who claim to be my friend and still feel like I have none, no one that understands what i am thinking or what I am going through. You are shy, that makes it feel even worse, just hang in there, you have friends here, that is a start, slowly your confidence will build and before you know it you will have more friends then you can keep up with.

I think I'd be your friend if I knew you. That is, if I could muster the confidence to talk to you >< <br><br />
I used to hate myself for my poor communication. But I realised, people only want to get to know you if you put yourself out there. You need to give them a reason to want to know you. Don't look like you're trying too hard to fit in though -be yourself. They probably don't invite you to stuff not because they don't like you, but because they don't know you well enough...and it's up to you to make that happen. I know it takes a while. I'm still struggling with my insecurities..but once you throw yourself into the deep end, looking back at who you were will bring a smile to your face.

i think you are in university . and mature hope you will find true soon.. so keeps the doors of your heart and head always.. <br />
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Best of Luck.

hey, sometimes i feel the way you i'm not invited to events that other people are invited to and it really sucks to be ostracized...<br />
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i really hate the people that ostracize me and leave me out of things. but i feel that things don't always have to be this way. i feel that i can change, the situation can doesn't always have to be this way. so hang in there, get involved in clubs, focus less on girls and more and developing interests and hobbies and try to meet people who have the same hobbies and interests. <br />
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good luck!!!