Maybe It's Me

maybe i'm forgettable. out of sight, out of mind. they stopped calling and responding to my calls or emails. maybe we weren't as close as i thought. maybe i put people off somehow, i don't know. maybe i'm boring, maybe we didn't have as much in common as i thought we did. i'm not a bad person, i know how to listen, i don't gossip...i just don't get it. what am i doing wrong? there are so many people in the world with so many different interests, other people don't seem to have a problem finding each other. so why do i? how does one go about finding real friends?

nrdi nrdi
22-25, F
4 Responses Feb 14, 2010

thanks for your comments. :) it's nice to know i'm not the only one out there struggling with something that shouldn't be so difficult. we are social beings by nature yet it seems we are all in the same boat.

I wish I could give you an answer to your situation, but I struggle with the exact same thing that you do. No one seems to want to befriend me and those in the past that have all ended up drifting away with no effort on their part to remain my friend.

Don't feel bad, most of the time....people are not worth to be called "friends". I have had bad experiences with my so called "friends" to the point that I truly believe a friend is A DOLLAR IN YOUR POCKET WHEN YOU HAVE IT! You must learn to be happy by yourself by doing what you enjoy doing. Most of all...don't try to understand others as we are individuals and nobody is a 24k gold bar for everyone to like him. Just be yourself, don't belittle nobody and don't praise anybody either. Remember that people are friends when you kiss their but, or give him something OR you have money and social status! For that matter live your life your way w/o harming others and trying to find happiness in you!! Good luck !

I know how you feel. I have a few people I talk to, but no real friends. It's a hard question to answer, how does one go about making friends? Especially when you are " grown up." We no longer have that playground connection or whatever. Well if it counts for anything, I will be your friend...and I love your picture it's really cool :)