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I have no real friends.

I hate how in movies there are always a close group of four girls that are best friends forever.

I hate how they can share everything with each other and always rely on each other to be there.

I hate how it makes me feel unaccomplished because I don't have anybody to rely on..

I don't have anybody to talk to..

to do anything with..

I'm lonely and I don't know what to do.

Niftee Niftee 22-25, F 16 Responses Jul 7, 2009

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I had those friends, we even called ourselves the core four. It lasted a year maybe. A glorious year but eventually one went down a bad path, one became distant and im on the verge of losing the last one. I miss them so much but the fact that I had that friendship makes me hopeful that i'll have it again someday.

i toooooo dont hav a real frnd or true frnd....dont kno wat to do

I know exactly how you feel. I am in grade 8. last year I started talking to this person and over the year we became best friends, just like in those movies. This year her old best friend is in our class and so she ditched me and became best friends with a girl who wasnt in our class last year. now i hang out with two other girls who clearly like each other more than me and dont care about making that obvious. I miss having the teacher say, "get in groups of two" and me turning to look at my best friend and her looking at me, knowing we had each others backs. I don't know what to do now. I can't reach out to a different person because everyone already has best friends except me...I'd be alright on my own, but sometimes teachers make you get with a partner and I always get partnered up with a mean trouble maker who no one likes. What can I do?

Hey it's ok...I'm also going through this and it's very hurting...I'm in high school and literally I don't have anyone to talk to. I never went to hang out with my friends cause I have 1 or 2 classmates who I just talk to. It feels very heartbreaking standing alone in a crowd where everyone has their friends or significant other.

Don't worry I'm in the same situation... I seriously go all day without talking to anyone. I got married and lost all my friends... And now that my husband is gone, he's deployed I have no one.. It makes me so sad.

I had a friend.. She was like my other half and we were going to grow up and be in each others weddings and watch our kids grow up together. She died at the age of 19 about 4 months ago and I hate my life now. My fiance wont let me talk about her because he ahtes seeing my cry but I die a little inside every time I think of her. And when we have our problems I have no one else to talk to about it.

My friends are all like that with each other, but not with me. Which is frustrating, to say the least. I always think that it's my fault too for not knowing how to be that close with anyone. I think I know how you feel, and I feel the same way. Every time I watch a movie, I get all depressed because the people always have really really close friends. Yet I continue to watch them. It's like I have to experience friendship through fictional people, which sucks.

i feel exactly the same with you, how do you cope up that with?pls reply.tnx!

You will find mostly that the ' fantastic four group of friends' does not really exist. People may go out together say on a night out,but over the next few days probably over the phone and recalling their night out, one is bound to be bitching about the other. I have been in a group of friends and I have been alone, and I can assure you I feel safer alone. I have found out I was only really wanted to go out with on a Friday night, to get drunk with and to share taxi costs. Since I have stopped wanted to get drunk and I don't smoke anymore, I have had constant invitations to go out clubbing, but no-one bothers about how I am on a day to day basis, or wants to do anything that is not connected to alcohol or nicotine! This has really shown me that I was not cared for by them after all!

You will find mostly that the ' fantastic four group of friends' does not really exist. People may go out together say on a night out,but over the next few days probably over the phone and recalling their night out, one is bound to be bitching about the other. I have been in a group of friends and I have been alone, and I can assure you I feel safer alone. I have found out I was only really wanted to go out with on a Friday night, to get drunk with and to share taxi costs. Since I have stopped wanted to get drunk and I don't smoke anymore, I have had constant invitations to go out clubbing, but no-one bothers about how I am on a day to day basis, or wants to do anything that is not connected to alcohol or nicotine! This has really shown me that I was not cared for by them after all!

Presuming way to much their. It is not an easy thing to make real friends. I dont think I have ever had a true female friend and I am 43. I have tried and given up and tried and given up over and over again. I accept and love who I am but I dont have any idea how to make friends. It can be painful and lonely at times but after such a long time I have given up trying, rejection sucks. If I didnt have work collegues I wouldnt know I even existed.

we are in the same situation & it's good that to know that i'm not the only one experiencing this. i have lots of friends but i can't talk to them with things that are really in my heart. i feel that they are just there because they need something from me. so how do you cope up that with in everyday basis?

I feel the same way lonely n no one to talk to. It's heartbreaking and sad not having meaningful friends. It's sad n makes me depressed. My daily prayer is I wish I had friends to talk to, to go out with and enjoy life.

********...! if you wanna make friends first learn to love yourself and then earn to accept others.<br />
Have respect for other people. Then friendship comes naturally. There's no need to make an effort. Realize the fact that whatever you think is not always right and that other can also be right about their views. You are not the only person in this world. There are also other people with their own ideas and views. Have respect for their views and naturally you'll be friends with them in no time.<br />
At first you may pretend to respect them, but later you'll really understand what it is truely is. Just take this chance because it's a chance really worth taking. Take this chance...........<br />
whoever you are out there.

I agree. I know the exact feeling. I have some superficial friends, I mean we talk about stuff, such as school, but nothing serious. It's like we're just friends only to have a good laugh and just have fun out of school. But when you remove everything, there really isn't a close, substantial friendship. However, when I actually want to talk about something serious or get something out of my chest, just saying as an ex<x>pression, I feel like I can't even do that with my so called "friends." I'm used to being lonely, because I actually prefer it, but when I don't have anyone to talk to it's actually sad... Just so you knows, you're not the only one feeling the same way. It's kinda comforting when someone knows what you're going through...

yeah, i feel exactly the same. Sometimes, i just cried w/out certain reasons at all but maybe because i feel sad. how do you cope up with life feeling like that?i don't wanna be depressed.

i feel the same way, and am the same way. yes, friends are good to have, but i really have none right now.<br />
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what makes this a double whammy is being STRONG and doing well alone. makes it all the harder and actually, damn near impossible to do the 'reaching out and looking for' thats needed to make new friends!!

I completely understand how you feel because i feel lonely most of the time but cant talk to anyone. <br />
I also feel unaccomplished and it can be a very painful feeling. <br />
I just want you to know that you do have friends and people going through the same as you on ep.

I feel the exact same way you do. I have some superficial friends, but if I really needed them, they would not be there. They don't won't to waste their precious time talking to me. They are always to busy. I have poor judgment when it comes to friends. Just want someone to share my day, good or bad with.

yes, that group of four girls is particularly annoying. i have always kept my own counsel and played my cards close to my chest while being totally envious of the "it" group. the only thing it has done is leave me filled with pent-up frustrated anger. it takes time to meet new people and learn to trust them, but if you open yourself to it, it will come. one of my best friends i have known for 15 years and she is more like a sister to me than a friend we are that close and know so much about each other. but we only became really close when i fell pregnant 2 odd years ago. it's a funny old world but try to remember the watched pot never boils. the more you want soemthing, the less chance there is for it to happen.<br />
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i've waffled on a bit but i hope you realise there are others with similar experiences who can understand you. be patient and good luck. xx<br />
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oh! and don't be like me - recognise the friendship when it's right in front of you. i was so busy being sorry for myself i didn't see it for ages.