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I Need More Female Friends.

I wish I had more female friends. I only have a few girl buddies and only one I hang out with regularly. The problem is that I find many girls to be bitchy, judgemental and fickle. I have had girlfriends team up and edge me out of the circle and another girlfriend suddenly stop talking to me, with no explanation when I tried to talk about it. And this is not in high school either. This is in our 30's! I don't understand how people can be so labile and throw away friendships so easily. Is there some sort of competition between us girls that I don't know about? I have always got along better with guys because they are more laid back, accepting and stable. However, although I have had many male friends, in my experience most guys want something more. True platonic friendships with the opposite sex are rare. I would prefer to have close group of girlfriends than guy friends because I think women understand each other better. But guys are fun to hang out with too.
Louey Louey 31-35, F 6 Responses Oct 5, 2007

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I am right here with you.I have been the one kicked out of social circles many times.It does not feel awesome.You would think in our 30s we would have move passed this high school mean girl stuff.It does not seem that we have.I do not get along with guys.Too much work beating them back into the friend zone.When they try to get out I get to hear the "I told you so" from my BF.He tells me it is not a good idea to try to make male friends.I have smacked that brick wall more than once.I just want a fun free spirit female (real girl/natural girl) to have as a friend.My last friendship ended when she asked to "taste" me.Dang it! Things where going so well and she had the brain of a man.

We have similar problems with friends. There is a competitive edge to women that makes it so difficult, sometimes its more of a delicate side where joking arounds becomes abit hard. But i enjoy being able to be myself in some ways, being able to talk with people with similar mindset. But with guys, there s always that "something else" despite the comfortable part. As you grow older, you notice it more as your naivety starts to wear thin, and it makes me self-concious.

I only have a few women friends also, and a few that I once called a friend but they stab me in the back more than once. I understand the need for a women in your life, because women bring that understanding that men cannot because we dont think the same as the opposite sex. If you ever need me I am here for you.

I only have a few women friends also, and a few that I once called a friend but they stab me in the back more than once. I understand the need for a women in your life, because women bring that understanding that men cannot because we dont think the same as the opposite sex. If you ever need me I am here for you.

I can totally relate Pickupsticks because I have slept in the same bed as my best friend who is a guy a few times when drunk and never had sex with him either. And both of us are straight. But I would never dare tell anyone (well I guess I just did) because most people wouldn't get it. I only have a handful of guy friends who I trust are not looking for anything more. I guess it's like you say: once you set the boundaries it should be OK.

You know Paul, that is an excellent point. I expect adults to act more mature than children but the reality is they don't. They fight, b*tch and moan just like children do. I see it with family, friends and work colleagues. Maybe we never grow up. I guess I still watch cartoons and play videogames.

You play video games! ;)