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I Need More Female Friends.

I wish I had more female friends. I only have a few girl buddies and only one I hang out with regularly. The problem is that I find many girls to be bitchy, judgemental and fickle. I have had girlfriends team up and edge me out of the circle and another girlfriend suddenly stop talking to me, with no explanation when I tried to talk about it. And this is not in high school either. This is in our 30's! I don't understand how people can be so labile and throw away friendships so easily. Is there some sort of competition between us girls that I don't know about? I have always got along better with guys because they are more laid back, accepting and stable. However, although I have had many male friends, in my experience most guys want something more. True platonic friendships with the opposite sex are rare. I would prefer to have close group of girlfriends than guy friends because I think women understand each other better. But guys are fun to hang out with too.
Louey Louey 31-35, F 5 Responses Oct 5, 2007

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We have similar problems with friends. There is a competitive edge to women that makes it so difficult, sometimes its more of a delicate side where joking arounds becomes abit hard. But i enjoy being able to be myself in some ways, being able to talk with people with similar mindset. But with guys, there s always that "something else" despite the comfortable part. As you grow older, you notice it more as your naivety starts to wear thin, and it makes me self-concious.

I only have a few women friends also, and a few that I once called a friend but they stab me in the back more than once. I understand the need for a women in your life, because women bring that understanding that men cannot because we dont think the same as the opposite sex. If you ever need me I am here for you.

I only have a few women friends also, and a few that I once called a friend but they stab me in the back more than once. I understand the need for a women in your life, because women bring that understanding that men cannot because we dont think the same as the opposite sex. If you ever need me I am here for you.

I can totally relate Pickupsticks because I have slept in the same bed as my best friend who is a guy a few times when drunk and never had sex with him either. And both of us are straight. But I would never dare tell anyone (well I guess I just did) because most people wouldn't get it. I only have a handful of guy friends who I trust are not looking for anything more. I guess it's like you say: once you set the boundaries it should be OK.

You know Paul, that is an excellent point. I expect adults to act more mature than children but the reality is they don't. They fight, b*tch and moan just like children do. I see it with family, friends and work colleagues. Maybe we never grow up. I guess I still watch cartoons and play videogames.

You play video games! ;)