Just No Point

There is no point in judging others, and if we spend less time doing so we can do a lot more happy living for ourself. 

fungirlmmm fungirlmmm
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13 Responses Mar 17, 2009

That's exactly why we love you fungirlmmm! Your awesome like that!

Thank you DF and everyone else here for your sound counsel, and words of wisdom. <br />
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It was Eleanor Roosevelt who said: "It takes courage to love, but pain through love is the purifying fire which those who love generously know."<br />
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Here are some other quotes from Eleanor Roosevelt: <br />
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You Learn by Living (1960)<br />
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"One's philosophy is not best expressed in words; it is expressed in the choices one makes. In stopping to think through the meaning of what I have learned, there is much that I believe intensely, much I am unsure of. In the long run, we shape our lives and we shape ourselves. The process never ends until we die. And, the choices we make are ultimately our own responsibility." <br />
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~ "Example is the best lesson there is."<br />
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~ "Great minds discuss ideas, average minds discuss events, small minds discuss people."<br />
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~ "You gain strength, courage and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, "I have lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along." ... You must do the thing you think you cannot do."<br />
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~ "Happiness is not a goal, it is a by-product. Paradoxically, the one sure way not to be happy is deliberately to map out a way of life in which one would please oneself completely and exclusively."<br />
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~ "When life is too easy for us, we must beware or we may not be ready to meet the blows which sooner or later come to everyone, rich or poor."<br />
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~ "Sometimes I wonder if we shall ever grow up in our politics and say definite things which mean something, or whether we shall always go on using generalities to which everyone can subscribe, and which mean very little."<br />
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~ "One of the blessings of age is to learn not to part on a note of sharpness, to treasure the moments spent with those we love, and to make them whenever possible good to remember, for time is short."<br />
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~ "At all times, day by day, we have to continue fighting for freedom of religion, freedom of speech, and freedom from want — for these are things that must be gained in peace as well as in war."<br />
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~ "Only a man's character is the real criterion of worth."<br />
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~ "I have never felt that anything really mattered but the satisfaction of knowing that you stood for the things in which you believed and had done the very best you could."<br />
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~ "If the use of leisure time is confined to looking at TV for a few extra hours every day, we will deteriorate as a people."<br />
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~ "If man is to be liberated to enjoy more leisure, he must also be prepared to enjoy this leisure fully and creatively. For people to have more time to read, to take part in their civic obligations, to know more about how their government functions and who their officials are might mean in a democracy a great improvement in the democratic processes. Let's begin, then, to think how we can prepare old and young for these new opportunities. Let's not wait until they come upon us suddenly and we have a crisis that we will be ill prepared to meet."<br />
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~ "As long as we are not actually destroyed, we can work to gain greater understanding of other peoples and to try to present to the peoples of the world the values of our own beliefs. We can do this by demonstrating our conviction that human life is worth preserving and that we are willing to help others to enjoy benefits of our civilization just as we have enjoyed it."<br />
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~ "We face the future fortified with the lessons we have learned from the past. It is today that we must create the world of the future. Spinoza, I think, pointed out that we ourselves can make experience valuable when, by imagination and reason, we turn it into foresight."<br />
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~Quote About Roosevelt:<br />
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"I have lost more than a beloved friend. I have lost an inspiration. She would rather light candles than curse the darkness, and her glow has warmed the world."<br />
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Adlai Stevenson, in a eulogy in the United Nations General Assembly (7 November 1962) adapting a statement that is the motto of the The Christophers, derived from a Chinese proverb (which has sometimes been attributed to Confucius) <br />
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I've always admired Eleanor Roosevelt.<br />
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~Tayer

You said it dude!

All good points, this post has been a learning read.<br />
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Lady Duchess has hit the nail on the head, if we have love in our hearts and don't have malice then how can jealousy thrive in the same space? It is not possible for the existence of jealousy if love resides. <br />
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Entice is correct that we have started out in the environment in which we are raised, if our parents were judgmental or prejudiced, we have the tendency to inherit the same. <br />
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Our challenge is to rise above, and be better than what our parents have taught us either directly or in-directly. In learning we need to heed the good counsel of our friends, have tolerance against our enemies and judge only ourselves for the things we have done for good or bad.

Some very good points there Entice.

Everyone becomes who they are based on their life experiences. Life is about trial and error we all werent born with how to manuals. We can love each other for who we are mistakes and all. We can learn from each other too. I believe in the good intentions a person has and how they make me feel with them. Why judge when we can just love

U r right Duchess.

Bravo Duchess Forthright,<br />
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Well Put Indeed! '{` Thank you, Milady. <br />
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There is something I've noticed that's not been addressed to my knowledge, and I find it to be disturbing. I've often wondered if some of the negative reactions to a person's good fortune, or their happiness over a new revelation about themself, stems from the reactor's own "jealousy" - so they verbally attack. <br />
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Jealousy is a topic we don't often hear discussed. As though the topic of jealousy is taboo. <br />
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What do you think about that, Duchess? <br />
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~Tayer

i prefer to use measure and not judge. After measuring, decide whether i want to commune with the other person in the future.<br />
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I measure you from your stories,experience and comments. From this I get your present state of mind, state of being and a lot about your persona and from this I decide how to engage with you in the future.<br />
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And you do the same to me! <br />
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So, from this, it is evident what damage it does when one lies in one's stories, etc. because one can attract the wrong circle and reject right circle.<br />
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b

JC said it: Judge not lest ye be judged.

OOPS u caught me carrot. I have been stalking you again lol.<br />
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Exactly Flour.

i agree with you- it is not our place to judge!

Awww hi little carrot. How are you?