I Don't Know How!!!

I don't know how to ask for help. I don't know how to do it. I am So bad at reaching out, even when I am at my worst. Yes, I can easily reach out to someone else, when they are hurting, or I see they are suffering, but than when it comes to me, I don't know what to do, I don't know how to make it all better, and I don't know what to do or say to someone. I don't know how to tell someone how bad i am doing, without freaking someoen the **** out. I have never been good at asking for help, mostly because when I was younger, I use to be raised that asking for help, was a sign of weakness, and I couldn't be weak....I guess that part of me, never left...
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1 Response Sep 9, 2010

I feel the same way,I am embarrsed to show how I feel and to ask for help.For instance they usually come to me and expressing there feelings to me.I have really never been the other person,And when im in the situation where Im the one in for need of advice or help who is there to listen and what are they going to think, will I be judged am I showing that I am weak.U feel these overwhelming moments where u wanna run from your situation cause u dont wanna show how u feel or ask for help cause its scary and embarrising.When I feel this way I found a way to cope I write how I feel down or I listen to music or play my guitar. it gets whats in my head out or I also call up my most trusted friend and go for coffee.I will try to explain a certain situation that happened to me(im in school and I need help cause I dont understand a question given and not clear how to answer it. am I just going to sit there and not ask and not tell her I dont understand?my answer would be yes.But then I think how embarrasing would it be for the teacher to ask to give my answer.And I dont have one.but then I wonder if others kids in the class dont understand the question to, so I got up the courage to ask.And sure enough half the class was wondering the same thing.)Get the courage to ask cause it may just help u in the end and others.your not alone trust me.