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I Don't Know How to Ask For Help

I Don't Need Any Help, But Can We Talk.

By: retiredfather
Written on March 24th, 2009

A lot of people come to see me. They start out their conversation with " I don't need any help, but can we talk?"

That's the key to helping, let others talk.

People feel better about themselves if they can talk without:

1) Disruption

2)Criticism.

Many times people can answer their own questions and then thank me for my help. Sometimes I say nothing at all.

It's ok to ask for help.

It's ok to ask.

It's ok.

 

By: retiredfather
Age: 61-65 , Male
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  • tulick
    tulick

    what???

    Mar 26, 2009
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  • retiredfather
    retiredfather

    I would try to defuse the issues to see what the real problems were.

    Mar 25, 2009
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  • tulick
    tulick

    well would you think it was ok if the above is what you got ???

    Mar 25, 2009
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  • retiredfather
    retiredfather

    Not really. I look at it from a different prospective.

    Mar 25, 2009
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  • tulick
    tulick

    n o its not because when people ask they don't always get what you manage to give



    others freak out others stop listening(if they ever started) others hand you a laundry list of how to fix it



    others tell you how whatever it is is all your fault imply that you are stupid insne reckless you name it for being where you are



    others will be like get over it stop whining (for simply expressing yourself) or accuse you of sucking the life out of them despessing them brining them down



    that is the ones who aren't dialing the crisis line or 911 on you



    are you starting to see my point ?

    Mar 25, 2009
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