I Don't Know How to Ask For Help

Hello I Need Some Help

By: deleted

Written on June 2nd, 2009

This is something I have always had trouble with. From asking for a simple helping hand, to a heartwrentching plea.

I still don't know why one little word can be so hard to say. Maybe part of it is admiting that there is a problem in the first place. Like I am failing in some way, not being a strong person who can handle life.

When I need help around the house, I wait until I really need it before asking. Which is just so silly, why not let everyone know that this is their house too, and their mess....help clean it! I am not superwoman, but I think sometimes I would like to be. Capable, and incredibly able.

When I have my bouts of depression the last thing I ask for is, help. I secretly wish that someone could see that I am not well, and just take over. But yet again I don't ask for help. Maybe it is insecurity about who I am, and the perception people already have of me. That I am more than capable, confident, and strong able to do anything.

What a good pretending act I have done. So much so, that now I feel there is no way of finding the door marked help.

Maybe I need to make a badge that says "hello I need some help" and then I could wear it for those times, I just cant bring myself to say it.

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Age: 26-30

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5 responses

Oddball01

That is so true about seeing asking for help as a weakness. I used to keep everything that was bothering me to myself because I Believed that I could handle it on my own, how wrong I was.

Jun 4, 2009
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psyko

I've always had an issue asking for help, even just moral support. It's because I am fiercely independant and beleived I could only rely on myself - so often people say they will be there for you and then aren't.

Like you YourLove, I've tended to hope people would recognise my pain, but they don't. And even if they do they don't really do anything about it.

Asides from all that I have finally learned that I DO need help/support and people AREN'T mind readers and so I have to tell them what's going on in my head. It's still hard to do, but I'm trying to make myself heard a bit more...I'm sure you can start practising by making some small requests?

Px

Jun 4, 2009
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Oddball01

No problem.

Jun 3, 2009
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Oddball01

First off, I want to say that it took a lot of courage to admit that and that you should be very proud. I, myself have a very hard time talking about real issues because I'm such an introvert and have trust issues. It's just really hard, but, good for you.

Jun 2, 2009
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dorobo

Maybe buy yourself a pin that you like and tell those close to you that when you have it on, you need their help and for them to ask how they can help?

Jun 2, 2009
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