Never A Succesful Relationship

I’ve never been in a successful relationship. Part of me still wants to try but most of me is just saying to hell with it. I used to weigh over 300 lbs which made it kind of easy because no woman would even look at me. Now, I lost the weight. Women are interested I tried getting back in the relationship game but I don’t seem to know how to go about it. My last relationship, I tried so hard to make it work but it all came crashing down on me. I did everything for this woman. I was there for her like you wouldn’t believe. I tried so hard to keep things together.  If being in a relationship means working this hard to stay in it, I don’t know if I want to go down that road again. Maybe I’m just not cut out for it.  

kretos43 kretos43
36-40, M
2 Responses Feb 13, 2010

@seekingwisdomforme~ Never let anyone, stop or keep you from living your life. Things may seem bad at the moment, but they do get better and quite honestly, if a man truly loves you, you won't have to try so hard. They always say love comes along when you're least expecting it, stay true to yourself, expect the best and remember at the end of the day, you can always look in the mirror and know you put forth the effort to love someone, if they can't see that, then you're better off without them. Hope this helps..

I know exactly how you feel. Most of my "relationships" end after 4 months or so and I get asked to be a friend. I've lost so many relationships and the common denominator is me. I must not be cut out for it either. I ended up becoming so emotional because I tried so hard and it made me look so pathetic. I too want someone to share my life with but I can't bear to go through this pain again. I have friends that tell me I deserve to have the greatest guy out there, but alas I don't. Yep, wish I could just not care about having a relationship. I wish I would have had some supportive words for you. I know how you feel though.