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I Dont Know How to Cheer Someone Up

I Wish I Could Be Better At It. I Still Care!

By: musicspirit
Written on March 8th, 2009

There are some people who know exactly what to say and what to do to make someone feel better. I can't seem to find the right way to cheer someone up. So sometimes, I just leave things unsaid. Or I appear silly and superficially sympathetic. I worry that I appear distant.

I think it stems from my difficulty with expressing my emotions. Hopefully I'm getting better at all that. EP seems to be helping. But I still feel that I'm not great at it. I just wish everyone knew that I care so much more than they might think!

By: musicspirit
Age: 16-17 , Female
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  • musicspirit
    musicspirit

    I can see that you're quite the problem solver :) Sometimes, when I can think of something, I do say it. I'm still not very good though.

    Great advice as always.

    Mar 17, 2009
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  • Wraither
    Wraither

    Your intentions are very good, but it sounds like you feel that all you can think of doing is giving emotional sympathy and uttering your compassion. That's fine, but you should also try a logical approach on cheering someone up. Analyze their problem and figure out what they need to hear to feel better about their situation. Also, figure out what you can tell them that can encourage them to improve it.

    Mar 17, 2009
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  • musicspirit
    musicspirit

    Lol "love's hard!" Words of wisdom indeed! I'm sure you made her feel better as you listened, which is something some people don't give time to. Maybe that's the best way to give support after all.

    Mar 17, 2009
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  • AdamDavids
    AdamDavids

    yeah its difficult to know what to say, just the other day a girl on my course came to me with love life problems and i was like 'loves hard' and said something else inappropiate lol. But i was sincere and listened.



    I think sometimes just being there and listening sincerely to there problems is enough no words are needed!

    Mar 17, 2009
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  • musicspirit
    musicspirit

    I'm glad I'm not the only one :/ Sometimes I just don't know what to say! Even when I do really want to say something because I feel sincerely...I'm just worried that I sound like a total idiot. Sigh indeed.

    Mar 11, 2009
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  • beyondfear
    beyondfear

    siiiiggghhhh.

    the feeling of helplessness when really ALL you want is to make the person feel better...sucks...really bad. i think the best advice i could give you is just let them see your sincere concern and its usually enough. if they're expecting you to solve thier problems when its out of your control, then i think you just have to realize that-even if they dont-and try and handle it maturely??

    i dunno. im trying to get better at this too :/

    Mar 11, 2009
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