I Love That You Compliment Me But...

I suck at actually taking compliments from anyone. Doesn't matter if it's a girl, a guy, my family, a stranger, or my husband.

I usually laugh and try and wave it off or say "That's a lie." or "what bunch of bullshit." or any number of things. I have low self esteem and I think that causes serious issues with being able to take compliments. I think the other part is that when I was growing up I had older brothers and all boy cousins, who of course always said I was ugly and gross (thanks guys) and my mother always told me I was fat and that no guys would ever be interested in me unless I was a size 5 like she was when she got married (thanks Mom). I actually blame my mother for my current relationship because I thought no guys would ever be interested in someone as ugly as me that I jumped on the opportunity of the first guy who showed interest in me as more than a friend and now my marriage seriously sucks. 

So yeah, people, it's not that I don't appreciate you calling me pretty or beautiful or anything like that, it's just that I can't think that way about myself. 
MoiraEthne MoiraEthne
26-30, F
1 Response May 15, 2012

Thanks for explaining. Helps understand when I give compliments, which I do alot and there are so many that don't even take the time to acknowledge the nice gesture on my part. I guess I do it for low self esteem as well, but doesn't make it any easier to swallow that women out there read the compliment and delete with no further action. Your post helped understand. Thanks