My Wife Left Me For Someone Else and Now Wants Me Back.

Any perspective on this disaster would be appreciated.  My wife left me almost a year ago.  We're in our 30s, we've been married 5 years, and have a beautiful 2-year-old.  In short, we had trouble communicating and getting along, she basically alienated most of my friends with her bad temper and distant personality.  Two months after my wife moved out, she told me she was happy without me and suggested that I move on.  I then fell wildly for a beautiful 23-year-old, and we started a very passionate relationship.  Soon thereafter I got an anonymous call that my wife had been cheating on me with a married co-worker, since before she left me.  When I found out my wife had been cheating on me I was somewhat relieved, felt somehow exonerated, and was OK just dealing with the mess and having great times with my lover, and luckily sharing 50% of the time with my boy.  Here's where the hard part starts.  Now my wife says she sorry, that she misses me, that she's a different person, and that we can be better/stronger together after what we've learned.  I told my girlfriend I wanted some space to think about it, risking our fun/wild albeit young/reckless/rebound relationship.  Now my wife will probably have an opportunity to move, affording us the cheaters protection program escape, meaning I would basically have to sever all my current friendships and disappear into humility.  Our divorce can be finalized in about a month, with me luckily getting shared custody.  I've never cheated on anyone before, but now I find myself over and over having passionate love sessions with my girlfriend followed by conversations with my wife on the phone about what could be.  Both women are beautiful, ideally of course I would be with my wife, all else being equal.  If it weren't for my son, I would never go back to her.  If it weren't for her affair followed by my affair of sorts, I would try again with her.  Now I have both and I don't know what to do.  Do I end it all, stand up for myself, live with some sadness, and concentrate on my boy?  Or do I go back to her, with shame to all my friends who know her as a cheating *****, and go back on the promises I made to my girlfriend, in the hopes of having the relationship with my wife that I always wanted?  Do I risk continuing in a horrible marriage with a person I largely despise, in the hopes that it could be different this time?  I have to make this decision in about two weeks.

Quilumbo Quilumbo
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30 Responses Apr 24, 2008

Each time your wife is late coming home or you can't reach her. Your thoughts will come back.the new gf is innocent and should be respected.once a Maria ge has failed things are never the same. Good luck


Life has been great with Richard untill he get a new job with BMD construction company in Austria, that we had to move down but thing changed right from the day he attended his first interview, when he came home, i asked him how things went, which he replied was fine and everything went well but said that he was been helped by a lady called SARAH and old time school mate.

we ate dinner together that day and 2 weeks later, our kid fell sick and was admitted in the hospital, i was there with my kid cause of my hubby's work. later that day he came to the hospital to check on our kid and brought some pizza for me.

he kept his phone on the cabinet and left for the doctor's office with my surprise, he got 3 voice mail from Sarah which i thought was calling to check on our kid, she later sent him a mail asking if the date was still going to hold.. without delay,i confront my husband but said it was a merely worker outing.

few weeks later, he started coming home late,at a point in time, he stop coming home from work and when i put a call accrose, he always reply i am at work,will call you later.

things happened so fast that Richard started fighting with me over little issues that haven't called for it.i endured for years until this faithful evening that Richard lawyer called me and said Richard is firing for a Divorce. it took me off my breath for some minute and i couldn't say a word, just at the moment the Lawyer told me,Richard stop coming home.

i was worried and had no one to call upon. i started asking questions and i have read alot online. on wikihow and some other blogs for help and advice. untill i decided to discuss with a good friend of mine, who told me about Dr mikel and his power spell. he give me his address and his contact and i decided to mail him via his email address( i narrated the whole story to him and how we stared from just been broke and live and survive by penny, he told me all his well and give me a list of items to buy. which i did as he instructed. it took weeks and i didn't hear from Richard and The Lawyer. but to my surprise that day was on Sunday, i got a call from home... saying that there is an emergency,which i thought my kid was into sort of trouble but to my own surprise, i meant Richard... and he fall to his knees asking for forgiveness and told me he has been sacked by the company and that he lead the wrong part, that he want me and me alone and the job.. he want me and my kid more than the job and i should please forgive him. i did

but the company called Richard back and that same month he got his promotion and everything started well again.
dr mikel has been of great help and thanks to God and dr MIKEL
he can also help you.


Dump her! You'll be better off. My wife left me and our 2 daughter's age 9&10. All of these women that are doing this are self centered And only think of themselves and their own selfish needs. Men that are in these situations Should stand up and be fathers As we've always been Explain the situation to your children And move on to a better life without this self centered piece of crap.

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before the wife finished asking the question of coming back i would have said no. all yall gonna do is fuss. and a kid could learn to love one parent . keep the kid with you if you can cause a woman cannot raise a boy to be a man. do this make sense.

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Make her give you 80% of her paycheck, this will prove She is serious and will keep her *** home. If She stops paying kick her *** to the curb. People today are indecisive, they think they can jump in and out of relationships, it is not fair to your new lover. Since She is the mother of your child give it another go, put your foot down and let her know there will be no devious discretions

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I feel you and I understand your situation for I am in a similar situation. My current "friend" as I like to call her is married and we've been in and off for two years. We're both really emotionally unstable. That's to say the least. Anyway today I took the kids to see there mother. The visit was supervised by myself. Usually her mom goes cause I really don't want to see her. We're sitting there talking bout everything that has happened to her since she left. You see my wife also cheated and went with another guy. Since then I've been with numerous friends of hers and have found this married chick that is just amazing in every way imaginable. I don't love her but if she wasn't married I would of let my guard down a long time for her. But I do still love and have feelings for my ex wife. So today she smells my son and says ummmm you smell like your dad! So she scoots closer as the kids go to play and just starts smelling me. Literally starts crying saying she would give anything to have me back. I'm not gonna lie I had the most wonderful feeling in my stomach and heart when she was telling me this. Not to mention she was groping me and she's turned into quite the 10!! So of course I'm instantly turned on I want her so bad I'm ready to rip off her clothes and start making passionate love to get rite there! But I play it cool and tell her sorry but I'm taken and I don't feel like that anymore. My delema is the same as yours only im just playing all these chicks to get what I want. I was never like this before but after being hurt I've turned into my dad. A dirty dog s.o.b. So my answer to you my friend is play her for all its worth make her feel shity she deserves it. Play it out like its gonna be perfect from now on and in a month get busted cheating on purpose so she feels the pain. Or just have your cake and eat it too till you get busted. But under no circumstances give up your life for a cheating woman. Good luck my friend.

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Some of you guys are too soft with all due respect. Once a woman cheats on you, it doesn't matter if you have kids with her or not, you should move on and be with someone else. If you take her back, she'll disrespect you again and cheat behind your back.

Women wants control and power, and that's fine when you meet the faithful kind of women, but there's no reason to give control and power to a woman who cheats on you and wants to get back with you the moment she realized that you've moved on and no longer being emotionally hurt by her as you once did.

Don't take her back for the sake of your kid, your kid will always be your kid no matter what happens as long as you be the best father that you can be to him or her, but your cheating wife is replaceable and life can go on without her hurting you again. Don't give her the chance to hurt you again, she'll do it when she feels like you're not paying her enough attention or if she meets another guy whom she thinks she'll be happier with. Go thru with the divorce and don't look back.

You right bruh I know personally I couldn't take back no cheating wife. If she was do sorry like she says she is then she would have never cheated in the first place. She only has one time to cheat and one time only and if I find out she cheated it's over we're getting a divorce period. If she cheated once she'll do it again. Cheat on me and I'll cut all ties with her period and I don't wanna hear sorry because I know she lying since cheaters are liars anyway

hope you tell your ex-wife bye....

I think you might have to just leave this alone. It sounds like a situation of "I DON'T WANT HIM TO BE HAPPIER THAN ME" syndrome. Some women feel extreme power when they have control over a mans emotions / finances. When another woman comes along and fills the space up; they feel a loss of power and they just have to DO WHATEVER TO GET BACK IN CONTROL. Since they can't just bully their way back; they use the tears method. And as soon as the competition is removed; they leave you again. Now you don't have what you had, you are losing what you THOUGHT you have and now you have to syart all over again while she sits back and laugh at you. Just remember this: A WOMAN CAN WALK INTO A MALE SYRIP CLUB WEARING A BIKINI AND GET ANY MAN IN THERE TO SCREW HER. A MAN CAN WALK INTO A FEMALE ***** CLUB AND GET KICKED OUT FOR TOUCHING A STRIPPERS HAND!

Agreed and that's why men should just divorce their wife after she cheated even if she only cheated once. Men shouldn't let those evil cheating women control their feelings and emotions they should just fight her having anymore love or feelings for her, divorce her and leave her behind. Not saying it will be easy but it's better to be single and happy and go on many dates as you want with no feelings or emotions involved instead of being in a marriage based on a lie due to a wife who can't control herself sexually so she cheats with just anybody who turns her on. Divorce her and good riddance to her

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What did you do?

My wife cheated, moved out, left me with two kids,and demanded a divorce. I gave it to her and was incredibly kind to her during the process.

I met a great woman whom I really liked and enjoyed. Then my ex wife wanted to see if we could work things out. She promised many things if I would just give it a chance for our family. I must be one dumb SOB. I listened, broke things off with my girlfriend and was ready to see if we could make a go of it.

The minute I had changed the direction of my life and given up the parts I was building she was back to her old self. She did nothing absolutely nothing to try. She was too busy with work or some emergency had cropped up so she said and she never set up counseling. I offered many times to set something up and she failed to give me a list of covered therapists. (I could not do it as she was the one with good insurance).

Finally, after a year I declared my independence and told her I was done for good. She said she'd been done for a very long time. Bizzare woman is jealous, angry and mad about the entire thing.

I've come to the conclusion that some people are just miserable and life must suck for them. I am way happier to not be entangled to such a downer.


Good for you and good decision! Let her wallow in her own misery :)

.Yes sir!!! You made the mistake of your life by letting her back in. The self centered women Are nothing but poison. Let her stay with her new cheating piece of crap man He'll learn what kind of piece of crap woman he's got. I know when I go to the bathroom all my crap comes together Just like them let them stay together and pull the chain on both of them.

I understand you more than you know. Similar but different situation but the altimatum is the same. Do you stay or do you go? As far as the other people in both of your lives, they each served a purpose at one point to help you get through whatever it is you were dealing with in moving on. Now you have an option. Where do you see your life going? Could you ever be happy back with your wife? Think about that with out taking your girlfriend into consideration, only because it sounds like you aren't that serious about her beyond the sex and fun which we all know doesn't last forever. You definiately have a hard choice. My opinion based on what you've stated would be, ask yourself if you could love and trust your wife again, other people's feelings aside. If you can't then there's your answer. If you can, then work on the communication problems you mentioned so you are able to have a whole and happy relationship with not only her but your family and friends. Also, keep in mind that your family and friends don't get a vote in your relationships and if you were to choose to take her back, they should be respectful of that and of her out of maturity and their relationship to you. Good luck, I hope which ever road you choose leads you to true happiness.

Maturity is the key words for your friends and family. And if you run your life on how people think of you, whatever choice you make will always come into question for those who are pro-wife or pro-girlfriend.

If you can't be happy with your wife, for goodness sake do not take that road as misery is not the way live out your life. Trust me I know.

You have two choices, figure out which is the best. One; You take her back and she ends up doing a repeat performance as she did before she left, She got dumped, nowhere else to go. that's why she wants you to take her back, Two; Go thru with the Divorce, then, take her back under conditions, She services you and your girlfriends, she wears a chasity belt. this way, you know she's not "sleeping" around. You keep your Girlfriend and you cuckold your ex wife. You become the dominate one. my opinion.

LOL. Or you wear the chasity belt and let both of them dominate you.

Do not take back your wife read this

Stage 2. That's me.

I'm in the same boat.. My ex wife wants to get back with me after her bf dumped her, I currently am seeing someone, it's nothing serious but I like her a lot . But I still love my ex. I'm unsure what to do. She left me for some one else and I feel like I'm just a safety net.

I make women like that pay Me to come back, you have to have financial contracts with women these days, I cuckold them.

That is exactly what you are if you take her back. Her safety net. She did not have any thought of leaving you and going on with her man. Don't become a doormat And bowing down to a woman who has walked all over you. Every night she was sleeping with him she was not thinking of you. To her he was probably the best thing since sliced bread The moment she saw that the bread dropped on the floor and had dirt on it she decides to return to the place where everything is safe and secure. Let that piece of trash move on and let the truck pick it up and haul it away.

Now that is a man......BRAVO

@adam1399: Two years later... I basically couldn't get myself to take my ex back, mostly because of how humiliated I felt and how humiliated I would feel to take her back. It still pains me every day, but less and less each day. There's no telling what would be better, back with her or alone. The good news is I have by boy 3-4 days a week. I think I found that my love for my son eclipses everything else. I have a fine girlfriend, still hidden from my ex, but my feelings for her are eclipsed by my love for my son. Kinda hard to explain I guess. I will say that I have had both friends and strangers help me through this, and I've been told "pay if forward", so if you want to talk about this I'll provide what I can. I will add that regarding the girlfriend I referred to in my post, that was a stupid rebound mistake. Funny I though that girl was so hot-I was blinded by desperation from being left by my wife, and was swept away with passion for the 23-year old. The passion was not a sustainable love, it made me stupid. I pass no judgement on people taking a cheater back now-it might have been for the better for me. But at the same time, I want to be strong for my son, and in my relationship with my ex wife I was broken down. So now I'm happy with my son, maybe when he gains some independence I'll look for a serious relationship with a woman. If it doesn't come, **** it. Work hard, play hard. Pardon the random stream of consciousness.

Whoops! Didn't realize how old this post was. Looks like you're still a work in progress relationship wise, but sounds like you're getting there. Good luck!

wow please tell me how that turned out for u. i have the same story please tell me how it when i know how u feel.

I think you should move on with your new lover. Unfortunately people don't change. Your wife showed you that you can't trust her. It might hurt but its the logical decision.

Where are you going to put your feelings for your girlfriend? Do you think they are just going to go away? As much as you would like your son to have both his parents living in the same home, it is not a good enough reason to get back together. My bet is that if you do take her back, it will be just a matter of time before things are back to the way they were only worse! Slow down! Don't rush into a decision you might regret.

I was in the same boat. I would like to know what happened. I took my wife back, only to become an adulterer myslef.

wow.<br />
well, you said it yourself, that you would be unhappy with someone you largely dispise. sounds like your wife (soon to be ex) needs to grow up.

Why not see a professional marriage counselor and determine if you can work things out to both of your satisfaction. I wouldn't want to be married to someone who was a name caller even if I had cheated. I could see how that sort of thing could push away a spouse emotionally enough to want to cheat. You are as much responsible for the failed relationship as she is and if you are not mature enough to accept that then marriage is not something you should consider at this time.

People are people. They all come with their own set of problems and things we love and things we hate about them. You obviously loved this wife of yours at one time. You have a history with her (both good and bad). You have a forever connection with her (your son). You will have to work very hard for the two of you to forgive one another (but that act will make your bond stronger). Infidelity is the hardest thing to get past. All this said, I still believe that since you are married, you should do everything in your power to make it work. You both made vows and until it is just not at all possible to be married...I think you should be married.