My Open-marriage I Didn't Know About!!

I have known my husband for 25 years and been with him 23 1/2 years. We have no children together, but I had a 2 year old son from a previous marriage. I knew we had our issues like anybody else, maybe a little more so because we moved to Kentucky for his job and I have no friends or family here, and for the last 10 years I've been sick with Breast Cancer that ended with both breasts being removed and me to sick for reconstruction surgery. Then a year later what the doctors thought was lung cancer turned out to be Neurosarcoidosis, which to me is harder then cancer. My husband had his first affair in February of 2002, which was about 2 months after my mastectomy .
He said it had nothing to do with it, but it felt like it did.
He changed his ways and we saved the relationship. My husband travels about 2 weeks a month for his job so that makes it even harder and makes me very lonely.
About 3 months ago he started acting different towards me and anytime I asked he said it was just work stress. Finally, 5 weeks ago he admitted there was someone he was getting close to and has basically checked out of our marriage. We still live in the same house together when he's not traveling but he is also a "High Functioning Alcoholic" that has now started drinking so much he has blackouts and doesn't remember all the terrible things he says and does the next day. When he was home for a few days at Thanksgiving at times he was loving and caring and we slept together only now he's traveling for work and won't even talk to me or text me. All the years he's travelled he had never just ignored me, he kept in close touch via text or email especially since I've been really sick this past year. But this particular trip I felt before he left was going to terrible and him not communicating with me is very hard because he's never done it in 25 years.
Help!! I'm so alone!!
SherryArnoldTaillie SherryArnoldTaillie
46-50, F
1 Response Nov 30, 2012

I am sorry to hear about your situation. My female cousin was in the same situation. He was a "high functioning alcohol" for years. It was a mess. My heart goes out to you.

Thank you so very much for your kind words. It's been a really long time since I've heard kindness. I appreciate your taking the time to leave me a comment, it will surely brighten my day.

You are so very welcome. I wish I could do more to soothe your hurting heart. It is a very hard things to go through. Just one day at a time is all you can try and do.