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Graduated College..now What?

 I spent four years studying Journalism/Mass Communications and Marketing at a small, Franciscan university in Olean, NY.

I didn't know what I wanted to do when I applied to college at the age of 17, and now, at the age of 22, I still don't have a clue.

Luckily for me, my father is an affluent member of my community & was able to use his connections to get me a job in this God-awful economy.  I hate the job but love the people I work with.

My parents (both of them) are applying pressure for me to further my education.  They'd like to see me pursue a degree in law for two reasons: one, I'd be good at it and two, I'd be financially stable in the future.  As fate would have it, I don't feel entirely comfortable saying "I want to go to law school" out loud.  

I could see myself attending graduate school for an MBA or and Integrated Marketing Communications program but I didn't do very well on the GMAT exam, blow-the-big-one at math and can't fathom packing up and moving to a new city in which I don't have a friend to call my own.

As if the grad school debate isn't enough, I have this boyfriend that I've been dating, for various reasons, for almost three years now. I love him from the bottom of my heart and he has been so good to me but it's not the all-consuming love that a woman should have for the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.  He is an amazing person and my exact opposite. He is calm when I am flying off the handle.  However, he is perfectly content living the life he has now.  He didn't go to college and that bothers me.  He has a job but it's not a great one and there's no room for him to move up in the company he is with.  I don't want to do anything that would ever hurt him but this feeling is reoccuring.  Lately, it's been coming more and lasting longer.

Break up with the boyfriend and move to a new city?  Stay here and continue to love someone who loves me more than anything and treats me like the last woman on earth.

I know what I should do, but I don't know what to do next.

s2t0b0u9 s2t0b0u9 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2009

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I'M IN THE SAME BOAT AS YOU--SO DON'T GET DISCOURAGED. I TOO HAVE A BOYFRIEND WHO DIDN'T GO TO COLLEGE AND SEEMS PERFECTLY CONTENT WITH HIS JOB. YOU HAVE TO WORK ON YOURSELF FIRST AND FOREMOST. IF THINGS ARE MEANT TO BE, EVERYTHING WILL SURELY FALL INTO PLACE. WHAT TRUELY INTERESTS YOU? HEALTH? TEACHING? BUSINESS? LAW? MY PARENTS ENCOURAGED ME TO GO TO LAW SCHOOL ONCE BEFORE AND, AT ONE POINT, THE IDEA SOUNDED GREAT. BUT REALISTICALLY SPEAKING, I DO NOT HAVE THE MONEY FOR LAW SCHOOL. NOR WAS I SURE I WANTED TO REALLY DIVE INTO MORE EXTENSIVE SCHOOLING. IN ADDITION TO THAT, I HAVE LOANS I NEED TO ATTEND TOO. I HAVE A BA IN ENGLISH BUT LOVE AND HAVE EXPERIENCE IN THE MEDICAL FIELD. LATELY I HAVE BEEN LOOKING INTO SHORT TERM, MEDICAL CERTIFICATE PROGRAMS IN DIAGNOSTIC MEDICAL SONOGRAPHY. SOME PEOPLE MAY SEE THIS AS GOING BACKWARDS, INSTEAD OF ME TRYING TO FOCUS ON GETTING A MASTER'S, BUT MONEY AND TIME ARE MY MAJOR CONCERNS. I DO PLAN ON GETTING A MASTER'S, BUT I FIRST WANT THE WORK EXPERIENCE AND, OF COURSE, MONEY BEFORE MAKING THAT COMMITMENT<br />
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ALTHOUGH I AM STUCK IN A POST GRADUATE LIMBO, I HAVE FAITH THINGS WILL WORK OUT WITH MY CAREER CHOICE--AND OF COURSE THE BOYFRIEND :-) HANG IN THERE. THE ECONOMY DOESN'T HELP NEWLY GRADS WITH FIGURING OUT THEIR PROSPECTIVE CAREERS EITHER. CONTINUE TO HAVE FAITH. ALSO, LISTEN TO WHAT YOUR PARENTS SAY AND WANT OUT OF YOU **BUT** MAKE THE DECISION THAT BENEFITS YOU AND YOUR FUTURE! YOU ARE AN ADULT. IT IS YOUR TIME TO EMBARK ON THE WORLD. <br />
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TAKE CARE,<br />
TIFF