38 Years Old and I Have Not a Clue What to Do With My Life

Hello Everyone,


I've been having a very difficult time as of late.  I'm 38 years old, I have a 4 year degree in Marketing which I never really did anything with.  I've always worked my whole life.  However, the only real job I had was as an event technology director at a resort.  The past 2 1/2 years I have been doing freelance AV work.

I need/want to change and reinvent.  I have no idea what nor how.   Is there a test that can help you determine what you might be good at?  What about a career coach?  I've been freaking out know that I am soon to be 39 and I haven't a clue what to do with my life.


If anyone has the time, I would greatly appreciate a response.  Thanks so much for reading.



goover goover
36-40, M
10 Responses Apr 9, 2009

I know how u feel...but i do believe in not giving up! I have been just trying new things.

Hope you've found your way, right now am 40 feeling the same, browsing, your post came in first, if you sorted out how did you manage

you only life once so don't lose your dream. so what big ******* deal you didn't achieve.the perfect career by 25 and worked your as off sucking up to your ******* boss, trying to convince yourselves you had a great first 40 years. your just not seeing it from the right perceptive. its now time for you to start your own small business in your home town.don't be afraid, you can do it!.it's doesn't have to make you millions just get back by and with hard work and commitment in 2 years its time you will have a thrieving business. if not well someone rich business will to hire you to build theirs

Hard word is going to be the only way!

It doest matter what your good at at this point the important thing is : if you could be anything what would you want to be?

I too am 38 and I'm a stay at home dad, besides doing this, I don't know what I want to do either!
I have always worked from a bartender to demolition, I enrolled in trade school but with the baby and one income, I don't qualify for loans cause income is to high, I feel lost... I can't be the old bartender guy anymore just starting...

I am 38, I know what I want to do, sort of. But its not happening. Instead, I just keep working. I don't know if it's because that's all I know how to do. I spent my early to mid thirties in college. 5 years, and what did I leave there with? An A.A.S. Because I couldn't make my mind up in college. It was a community college, what was I thinking?

Sometimes I wonder, is this how rational people live? What am I missing?

Hi there,<br />
I am 38yrs girl, having very similar story. I studied hard, work hard my whole life but did not establish the life I want till now. life is not easy and not exactly fair, but I won't give up. Will keep on trying, hoping and beleiving. Wish you and every one with a similar story not to stop till you fulfil your dreams. Best of luck.

Hey Todd,<br />
I myself recently have been feeling like a loser because my career in Massage Therapy was so short, just 4 1/2 years. I've had to abandon it because the economy just isn't catering to it.<br />
I had enrolled in Medical Assisting school but I had to drop out after 2 weeks because I found it just wasn't in me. I got depressed for a while and then rallied my energies and looked for change.<br />
I found a new direction after about 5 months. Now I will be going to Esthetician college in a few weeks and Im really excited. I dont know if this may help you out but I took a test called the Myers-Briggs test and it really helpd narrow things down for me. You can take this test for free online.<br />
Wishing you all the best,<br />

This may be the only question I am actually qualified (by experience, that is) to answer. When I was feeling that way, I was told to just try to do different things/activities or volunteer or take a class - if nothing sounds interesting, just try anything. A local community college has a lot of fun, affordable classes - from 1 day to 8 weeks. And each new activity or job I tried taught me what I liked & didn't like.<br />
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Now, I don't believe there is ANYONE who doesn't have some things that are the perfect fit for them - please keep trying. And don't feel like your going backwards - maybe you've just come to the next adventure in life!! (Some people don't figure out they're unsatisfied until much later - so I hope you start finding your answers/your path ASAP! Good luck!

I'm in the same boat. I am 44 and was laid off from my job in the healthcare collections field. I am taking this opportunity to find out what I want to do when I grow up. :-) I am trying desperately not to go back to the same BORING field I've been in for over 20 years. I'm a very creative person and hope to find a job using those skills. You might try and Google "career tests" or something along those lines. I'm sure there are many sites that offer these types of tests. Good luck and I hope you find a job that makes you happy.