Please Help:(

I really dont no what to do anymore. In march a was diagnosed with thyroid cancer. i got it removed in everything but until they get my pills regulated i am very sad. Meanwhile my car breaks down but luckfully my dad fixes it. Then i loose my job and get fired for employee conflicts... then my ex from 1.5 years ago is leaving and we just started hanging out again he is my 1st love and i am his. He says that he wants to marry me someday and that he loves me but he is leaving for college, he says let something u love go and if it comes back its ment to be. What do you think??? i cant find a job either i just started back at skool for respiratory i had to take medical leave... plz help
ascott5079 ascott5079
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2 Responses Jul 23, 2010

Don't dwell so much on your pain(i know it's not easy) just like ranjii said things are starting yo look bright already coz the cancer is no longer there. Do the things that you enjoy the most whenever a dreadful feeling starts crawling in your mind and remove the word "problem"in your vocabulary and replace it with "possible". That job is gone but there are abundant jobs out there maybe much be-fitting you and can allow you to develop,grow and discover your potentials.Look at your strengths and celebrate them, write a letter to your father telling him what a great person he is to your life for being there for you when you need him. Learn to look at the beauty of life and just appreciate it. As for your lover if he has to journey let him be and wish him well, to cling on peoples promises as they might cripple your future and abilities, don't be clingy on a lover, it's only making you weak and that usually scares people off. JUST LOVE YOU, BE HAPPY and everything will come second

the most important thing is to do whatever you need to do in order for you to be in good health. for the other, as much as everything seems so extremely important to you now, you are young, you have a life ahead of you, look towards the positives, there are many for you. i think that maybe we all have a tendency to put too much importance on things that are difficult, i can only give some advice that i think its better to put your energy really towards the good things in your life, i am not saying to ignore the things that are troubling you. just discover ways in order to find a balance.<br />
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things are already going in a good way for you, your cancer is removed and your on the way to better health, great for you! <br />
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if you were having troubles at your job, you probably were not very happy working there, yes! it is reality that we all need money to survive, and just look at the loss of this job as an opportunity to find another, more suitable one for you.<br />
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for your relationship, when you truly love someone, and they are making a major personal transition in their own lives, the best thing to do, in my opinion is to support them in their decisions, and give them the space to make this experience on their own terms, take this opportunity to observe and listen to what they are sharing about their life, with you. and support them the best way you can.<br />
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although what he has said to you, is a bit of a cliché, its because throughout time, this has proven itself to be true for people consistently.<br />
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and if it is true for you and him, then its a really beautiful thing that should be embraced, if you let it happen this way, i hope that you will find yourself being pleasantly surprised.<br />
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its difficult to have faith in something where you are giving things up to a sort of idea of "chance" or "fate", its an obscured form of action, because you sacrifice the willingness to lend control to the situation, its hard to imagine that no action somehow will yield some form of result. you may feel compelled to do something in order to achieve the result your looking for, a kind of forced way of coming to an understanding or realisation, this can backfire on you, and actually cause the exact opposite of what it was you were hoping for, is where the idea of patience comes into play, sometimes before reacting, its good to take a moment, think and contemplate what is going on before you react.<br />
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seek the advice of people in your life who love you and who you can really trust. listen to what they are also saying, it may also help you.