She's Counting Her Calories.

How many of you out there have been getting depression...and trying to lose weight...and feel low about yourself...and been counting calories every single day??

Well, I have a friend who's going through that.

Hmm...I've been trying to be sensitive to her feelings...trying to encourage her to be positive about things...I've been trying to do what friends should do.

But really....honestly....

I can't do anything about it.

Hmm..I can never understand what she's going through.

Even when I tell her...she has friends who accept her for who she is.

I keep telling how she's becoming more beautiful...when she's more happy and positive.

But somehow....all the negativities got into her....and it's controlling her life.

I'm not saying that it's all wrong for her to try and lose weight or watch her calories intake but...

The depression that's taking over her... may end up drifting her away from us.

How...how to understand?? How do you make her see?? That she's more than all that. That she's just great the way she is.

The thing is...she's seeing the experts... and she has to take on special diet. All this is good.

But when she thinks too much about it or takes food that exceed her daily calories intake, she'll automaticaly get into depression. And isolate from the rest of us. It's not that we're not supporting her or things like that...

My gawd..I've never been through this so I just don't know how to handlle it.

She'd end up going to the toilet and cry.

I just don't know what to do.

I want to help but seems like I can't..

Cos she's concious of what's really going on. And she chose to be like that.

But..arrgghh...

And I think it affected the rest of us badly. And our project might get affected too.

Help me someone...haiz...

Syaz Syaz
18-21, F
4 Responses May 9, 2007

She thinks the way you do too!!! The part about her brain processes chemicals..and all sorts of other things... you see...she's aware. And it's a bit freaky sometimes when she cry about her health concerns... and the minute, she happy and jumpy. Like...woah...ok...and she gives me all sort of scientific names to describe whatever she's having. Hahaha... it's a lot to digest but I'm glad I used to be a bio student :)

I've been going through the same thing. In essence, the depression is not the cause of the weight problem, the concern for the weight is a result of the depression, so she needs to get that looked at first. For me, the first step was realizing that there is something physically wrong with the way my brain processes chemicals that affect my mood and feelings. Once I recognized that, I gained control over my life, and eventually my food and weight issues. In trying to control her weight, she is desperately trying to control the course of her life and something in it because it probably to her feels like the world is spinning out of control. Tell her to get online and look some things up...or send her here! It's nice to be in good company :)

Yea...last time everthing she ate, she'd automatically vomit out...in the toilet. Now, she just get into depression if she thinks she's not trying hard enough to lose weight. Eee...I dunno what to do. I'm worried about her. And besides, it's affecting our friendship.

My concern here is that she could end up anorexic or bulemic. Especially after your "going to the toilet to cry " statement. Crying may not be all she does in there! Be careful and keep close eye on this friend!