Private Dining Only

Since I was a teen, I felt that eating was an activity that should be done in private. I've always been a poor eater, though. When I was a girl, at the dinner table, I used to put the food from my dish into my pockets when no one was looking, then throw it outside.

I eat small amounts and eat slowly. I have to eat in peaceful surroundings. If I'm working and it's hectic, I'll go the whole day without food, then have something when I can get back to my place and relax. I can't eat if I'm hurried.

I don't mind having drinks with a group of people but I really don't like eating in public in a group. Trying to keep up a conversation and eat at the same time makes me nauseous. I dread that someone will ask a question right when I put a bite into my mouth. I get stressed out even if I see it happen to someone else as I watch them struggle to answer through a mouthful of food. It's just awful. 

Maybe I'm just not coordinated: can't talk and eat at the same time.

Once a friend kept asking and asking me to go out and have dinner with some people she wanted me to meet. Finally I told her 'People don't sit around in a circle of toilets and defecate together. Why should we sit around a table and eat together?' She stopped asking me out. Actually, she stopped talking to me.

I'm trying to get better at this. I think if I can trust a person and can feel at ease with them, I might be able to eat with them. OK. That's my goal. I'm going to try getting comfortable having a peaceful meal with just one person and then take it from there.




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6 Responses Mar 16, 2009

I'm the same way,I've always hated eating front of people.I like eating alone.I agree with you I think eating is something that should be done in private.Plus I have an eating disorder to top that off.

At school I don't eat lunch, so their are rumors flying around that I have a eating disorder. I really annoys me because I don't look like I do, I'm not fat or anything but I'm not bone skinny and I don't know what to do about it because I WILL NOT eat in front of other people. I can eat in front of my family and my best friend but no one else . Help me -.-

It is interesting to note that your eating preferences are advantages to staying thin. I wonder which came first. Are you thin because of your eating habits? Or do you cultivate eating habits that help keep you thin?<br />
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I have read that some people in the west have a biological tendency to store fat because that ability gave there ancestors advantage towards survival when food might be plentiful and then sparse as the seasons changed. <br />
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Whatever, I like how you look…D

I plan on doing just that as soon as I get some sort of insurance, My roommate has the same problem, they put her on them and she lost over 60 pounds AND no more dry skin!

I don't like eating in front of people either.. for a different reason. I'm heavy and I feel as if I'm being judged every time someone sees me take a bite of food, yet most of my thinner friends end up eating half my food because I really don't eat all that much lol but I still get that same stereotype that all heavy people eat like pigs, in my case I have bad genetics and a wonky metabolism made worse by spending so much time starving myself to lose weight in my younger days

I am like that when I am on a date or around someone I am really attracted to. I don't like eating around a lot of people either. I don't like it when people stare at you while you eat. I have manners and I am not a sloppy eater or anything but have you ever just felt uncomfortable like everyone is staring at you? That's such an uncomfortable feeling.