He Says I Abandoned Him When He Was At His Lowest .....I met a man who moved with me, assuring me that his job would bring in good income and we would be fine with him living in my house (I had heard stories of men freeloading off women and didnt want to become another statistic). He moved into my house with his grocery bag of belongings basically. Within a couple months his construction job slowed and he was at home often but 'calling places' to find when and where more work would be starting. Meanwhile, I would come home to a dirty house and he would get angry if I asked him to pick up his clothes and use a hamper or wash dishes. He would get angry that I wouldnt give him money for a six pack when I was about to have our baby a year later and he had not been working for 3 weeks. After a year of being in love with this man and hoping he would find a stable job for all of us, I had to ask him to leave. Of course, he put me on a guilt trip of how I was 'money hungry' and 'abandoning him because he was down on his luck and not making much money. All I ever wanted (and this I told him tons of times over that year he lived with me) was that he get a stable 40 hour week job-even if it only paid $10 hour. He insisted that his pride would not let him work for that when he could work for almost twice that doing construction. But if construction had you working one or two days per week or less some months how is that a good thing? Anyway, we kept in touch dating occassionally for another year or two (what can I say? :He would call me begging and crying to come back home but I stood my ground even though he was charming and I still loved him. Deep down hoped he would change for the better and I could let him return. What happened? He lived off and on in hotels, and eventually found a woman to move in with who also had her own home. He says he will marry her soon and for now he is even working a warehouse job regularly. He says that she would NEVER put him out of her home and that whatever job he chose to do was fine with her. He said he has changed. I wonder has he or is this just temporary? Can someone please tell me why I feel so depressed over all this? We were so perfect together besides the issue with his job and he had proposed to me one year after we met but I told him we should hold off a bit.
paredvm 41-45 2 Responses 0 Apr 15, 2011