Loser MenI was in an 18 year marriage that went from good to bad. My hubby did not want to help pay any bills. He said he felt like a boarder because he had to give me 250.00 a pay period to help pay rent, utilities, food etc..
I do not understand his reasoning.. Didn't he understand that the mans job is to support his family??? In the beginning, I was a stay at home mom to the 3 kids. When they got a little older, I went back to school and then got a job. Once I got the job things started going bad.. He got out of military, worked some part time jobs, we moved and he finally got a full time job but only gave me 50.00 a week to help out with household expenses.
Once we moved again and he had to give me more, he got upset. Said his friends told him he was giving me too much money. 250.00 is nothing when their are 5 people in a family. So, of course I put in the difference which was quite a bit.
Then he started finding ways to not give me money to help out.. Says I'm cheating.. All I did was work, come home and work some more.. Now paying all the bills myself.. Meanwhile, he is still there using the utilities, eating the food I buy but now not giving me anything at all. I'm told I need to get money from the man I'm supposedly seeing.. Wish there was someone else..
After 18 years I left.. Stupid me should have left sooner but was too slow..
Was he using me.. YES!!! Did he think he was using me.. NO!!! His saying "The person who makes the most money, pays the bills".. Well, what about the person making the least amount of money?? Its not like he cleaned house or cooked dinner or anything..
I just don't like men who use women..
GoddessTee 36-40, F 19 Responses 0 May 20, 2007