It has taken me a very long time to actually SEE reality....I walked around with rose colored glasses on for most of my life, assuming that most human beings were basically kind, caring people. It has taken me 57 years of living and the death of my husband to wake up and see that I had it all wrong. My assumption was quite the opposite of reality, which is that MOST people are egomaniacs who are interested only in THEIR own stories, likes, dislikes, and what there is to gain in any given situation for themselves. Most people COULDN'T CARE LESS about the pain another person is enduring. Truly kind, compassionate people are very rare in this world. It is so sad to learn that 90% of humanity is selfish and disappointing beyond words.