My Inlaws Are Very Stand Off-ish

FIRST OF ALL WERE A GAY COUPLE IM 26 AND HE IS 36 , SO NATURALLY HIS ENTIRE FAMILY IS OLDER THAN MY FAMILY, THEY ARE CHURCH GOING,  CHIOR DIRECTORS , OLD SOUTHERN BLACK PEOPLE . MY FAMILY IS PUERTO RICAN FROM PR RAISED IN NYC!  WHILE HES BEEN IN RELATIONSHIPS WITH GUYS BEFORE , FOR LONG NUMBER OF YEARS , I JUST FEEL HIS FAMILY HAS NO INTEREST IN GETTING TO KNOW ME . WEVE BEEN TOGETHER ALMOST 3 YEARS AND HE LIVES 10 BLCOKS FROM HIS MOM, HE PICKS HER UP FROM CHURCH ALMOST EVERY OTHER DAY AND IS TOTALLY HER DRIVER BECAUSE HIS DAD IS 81 AND CANT REALLY DRIVE . HIS BROTHER AND COUSINS  ALWAYS JUST POP UP AT HIS HOUSE TO HANG OUT AT ANY TIME AND SINCE HE DRIVES  HIS PARENTS CAR FOR WORK ETC, SO AT ANY GIVEN TIME THEY CALL AND NEED HIM TO DROP THEM OFF SOMEWHERE , WE HAVE TO STOP WHAT WERE DOING TO GET THEM AND DROP THEM OFF ... AND OF COURSE PICK THEM UP .WHICH IS FINE ITS THERE CAR .. SO AFTER SEVERAL ATTEMPTS AT BEING AROUND HIS FAMILY AND FEELING LIKE A SOFA . I HATED BEING AROUND THEM SO I STAY HOME WHEN HE PICKS THEM UP , DURING THE HOLIDAYS I ONLY WENT TO ONE . HE ALWAYS WANT TO GO TO BOTH , 2 HRS AT MY MOMS HOUSE IN BK THEN THE CALL COMES IN THAT HIS PARENTS ARE READY TO GO TO HIS UNCLES HOUSE IN NJ.. .AND THEN WERE THERE FOR 6 HOURS ...  AFTER THAT I DECIDED THAT IM ONLY GOING TO MY FAMS HOUSE ON THANKSGIVING N E CAN GO TO HIS UNCLES IN NJ, AND HE HATES ALL OF THIS HE REALLY WANTS HIS FAMILY TO GET TO KNOW ME . BUT I FEEL LIKE THEY HAVE NO INTEREST IN ME...  HIS FAMILY IS ALSO VERY BIG AS IS MINE BUT WERE SCATTERED ACROSS THE US . THEYRE MAINLY ALL IN THE AREA OF 4 HOUR DRIVE AWAY . SO AT EVERY EVENT THERE IS AT LEAST 30 + PEOPLE ..... WEVE HAD AMJOR BLOW OUTS ABOUT THIS ISSUE BUT I DONT KNOW HOW TO FEEL ANY DIFFERENTLY , BECAUSE HIS WORLD REVOLVES AROUND HIS FAMILY ... DOES IT HAVE TO BE MINE TOOO ? ... I WILL NOT LET THAT HAPPEN.... HOW CAN I MAKE THIS FAIR FOR US BOTH  BECAUSE I BELIVE THAT RELATIONSHIPS SHOULD B ABOUT FAIRNESS .... WHAT DO YOU THINK???
mrbkank1985 mrbkank1985
26-30
May 16, 2012