She's Emotionally Abusive

Any time I deviate from 'the plan' she dreamt up for me before I was born (University>Lawyer/doctor>Three kids and a house with a white picket fence), I am verbally abused. Daily, I am called a worthless, useless loser who she wishes had never been born. I used to nod my head and agree with her just to stop her screaming - "Yes mum, I WANT to go to university despite university tuition tripling", "I know mum, you just want whats best for me. Of course I want to become a lawyer" - because once I retort with screaming of my own she physically lashes out. But I'm now eighteen and I can do as I please. I keep well away from her, which is hard because I'm still under her roof. These past few years have been incredibly turbulent. She cries down the phone at her relatives calling me a horrible son, but she makes sure I'm in earshot. When people tell her what lovely kids she has, she tells them she "doesn't really like them much". I've decided to join the Open University as opposed to going to a brick and mortar university. I need to stay close to my hometown to act as a peacekeeper between her and my sister.
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1 Response May 25, 2012

are you from australia? I don't value open university so much, but I think its ok for the first year before you transfer to a real university. I just feel like employers would value your degree less if it was from an open university. My mum is a psycho and I hate her and never want to see her again. She calls every few months but I just want her to go away and don't reply. She insists I visit but I don't know how to tell her she makes me unhappy. I think the best thing for you would be to go away for college..from her.